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Man up for Psychotherapy

Man up for Psychotherapy

When it comes to the talking therapies, it is definitely not a man’s world. Not only are women far more likely to opt for a talking therapy when feeling distressed, but as Andrew Samuels pointed out in a previous post, more than 80% of BACP members are female. In this simple context it’s no wonder some men may wonder if therapy was really for them. Wouldn’t it be better to just “man up”, like their fathers did? “Getting on with it” is certainly a British trait, one which many trace back to distant fathers returning from war unable to speak about their...
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Coping with a Relationship Crisis

Coping with a Relationship Crisis

When you are going through a relationship crisis and you don't know if the relationship is over, or if you are in fact dealing with the ending of a relationship, it's an incredibly difficult time. You may find yourself struggling to cope emotionally, which of course has an impact on your ability to deal with day-to-day life. At such times, some people find they have trouble sleeping or eating, while others may start to over indulge with food as a way to stuff down the feelings and numb the pain. Some people start to drink more than usual to block out their...
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Eating Disorders: A Deep-Rooted Problem

Eating Disorders: A Deep-Rooted Problem

Increasingly it seems that almost every woman has some sort of disordered relationship with food and it’s become quite rare for women I see in my therapy practice not to have issues with food and body image. It’s so common in our society that it seems almost normal. However diagnosed eating disorders such as anorexia and bulimia are far more serious than the day-to-day preoccupation with food and weight that many women experience. Sophie contacted me in her late twenties, having had an eating disorder for over ten years. She had reached the point where she...
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Depression: What it is and how to deal with it

Depression: What it is and how to deal with it

From time to time most of us may say "I'm feeling a bit down" but what does it actually mean to be depressed?  Depression can take many forms and vary in terms of how long it lasts and impacts us, however it usually involves more than just feeling a bit down. With at least one in ten of us experiencing depression in our lives it's likely that if you haven't experienced it yourself, you will know someone who has, even if you haven't been aware of it. Mild depression  At one end of the spectrum is what's often referred to as low level or mild depression....
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How Hypnotherapy Can Cure a Fear of Public Speaking

How Hypnotherapy Can Cure a Fear of Public Speaking

“When I got up to speak in public for the first time, I felt as if I was going to fall off the podium. Great waves of fear were overwhelming me, I shook like a leaf in the wind, and my mouth was so dry that I could scarcely move my tongue to speak. It was the most scared I have ever been”. Public speaking can cover anything from speaking at a wedding through to a large seminar as part of your job . The account above, from a female executive who went on to conquer her initial reaction of addressing a meeting of 80 people, is not so rare. Unfortunately for many...
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Online Counselling Explained

Online Counselling Explained

Traditionally, the term ‘counselling’ generally refers to the confidential conversation between a professionally trained counsellor and a client. This conversation usually takes place at a mutually agreed date and time. However, if you lead a busy life, work overseas or in shifts, or you're the parent/guardian of young children, then ‘face-to-face’ counselling may not be for you. Online counselling has some similarities with face-to-face counselling. You still engage in a conversation with a professional counsellor, with the intention of finding a way forward...
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Gambling Addiction Therapy

Gambling Addiction Therapy

Jo had never seen herself as a gambler. When she realised she had run up a debt of over £1,500 on what she told herself was harmless fun, it came as a terrible shock. It was only when she tried to stop, however, that she was forced to admit how big her problem had become. At 28, Jo had recently left a difficult relationship and was living alone with her two children. She had a part time job as an office assistant, and her life seemed routine and lacklustre. She got into the habit of playing games on her phone once the children were in bed; it was an innocent way to...
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How Words Healed Me

How Words Healed Me

No-one now is a greater believer in therapy than me. But hitherto there’s been one huge problem with talking cures: finding the right therapist. It took me several years, three therapists and hundreds of pounds before I found Sarah who then transformed my life. First I had to believe that I needed to embark on therapy. I was initially resistant. Eventually it was my psychiatrist who persuaded me of how valuable therapy can be. A person, unlike a pill, can listen to your story when you are well enough to tell it, and give you a fresh perspective, he said....
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Men In Therapy: Why Are We Holding Back?

Men In Therapy: Why Are We Holding Back?

Why do men become therapy clients? We can also ask why men become therapists. Are men’s aims and goals, as clients and practitioners, different from those of women and, if so, have therapists really recognised this? Or, just as so many aspects of culture take the male as the norm, could it be that, for contemporary therapy, it's the female model that prevails? And men simply have to fit in. We know that men die younger than women, commit suicide more frequently, and are slower to take serious symptoms of illness to the doctor. We assume that men aren't as likely as...
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