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Why do we procrastinate so much?

Why do we procrastinate so much?

I used an expression with my therapist the other day, ‘high on the hog’ and he wasn’t sure what I meant. I thought it was a common enough saying implying luxurious or affluent, but, as therapists do, he wanted to know more. “Why that phrase? What did it mean for me?” As I sat down to write about how and why we procrastinate I remembered this exchange. It suddenly became vital for me to know the etymology of ‘high on the hog’ and within moments Google had provided the answer. One interesting fact led to another and before I knew it more than 40 minutes...
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7 Ways to Deal with Stress

7 Ways to Deal with Stress

Health and happiness go hand in hand.  A healthy body creates a healthy mind.  Everyone knows that a good diet promotes health and well-being, but the effect of stress is often underestimated.  Stress can be a killer. Let’s get some facts straight first.  Short term stress is not bad for you.  The body is designed for short term stress.  Short term stress can be enjoyable.  People choose to go on fairground rides – even though their bodies have an extreme stress reaction on the more exciting rides. Humans evolved to hunt mammoths.  It's just that we didn’t...
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7 Myths about Changing your Relationship with Food

7 Myths about Changing your Relationship with Food

Do you ever feel that your relationship with food is doomed to failure? How can you truly break old habits and move to a relaxed and enjoyable place where you can eat out effortlessly and feel proud and comfortable of your body? Maybe you feel that you can skip along quite happily for a few weeks and then suddenly, wham, bam, you are back to flicking furiously through diet magazines for the latest craze; weighing yourself obsessively twice a day and piling on the body self-loathing with intensity. Why? Why? You really thought that this time you had it sussed. Here...
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How to Maximise your Learning Potential

How to Maximise your Learning Potential

For a long while I’ve been an advocate of individuals taking responsibility for their own learning and not leaving this to the discretion of their employer. The Internet is the biggest global free university, with online accelerated learning and a wealth of free e-courses at your fingertips, many of which offer high-end value content and teaching. Over the last few years we’ve seen a rapid rise and return to learning the old crafts. Subjects like knitting, crafts and weaving are returning to mainstream programmes in our universities and colleges. Online...
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From Hedonist to Healthy: Overcoming OCD and Anxiety

From Hedonist to Healthy: Overcoming OCD and Anxiety

Bea Mitchell has obsessive-compulsive disorder and experiences debilitating intrusive thoughts about her partner and their relationship. As she wants people to understand OCD better, she has written here about how it led to her recent decision to get healthy: I don’t care about my health because I’m not far off 30, or because I want to be fit, toned or thin. I care about my health because if I don’t, my OCD runs wild, causing extreme anxiety. Healthy living is something I’ve never really aspired to. The sheer bliss that drinking, eating, smoking - and the rest...
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10 Reasons to Adjust your Relationship with Food

10 Reasons to Adjust your Relationship with Food

Harriet Frew is a therapist who specialises in disordered eating. Here are her reasons why this year should be the one you finally sort out your relationship with food, for good: 1) Because life is too darned short to be filling your head with thoughts about the calorie content of your next meal or the size of your bottom. 60,000 thoughts per day – let’s use some of this thinking time for stuff that really matters! 2) Because you know deep-down that the next diet is NOT going to be the magic wand that fixes your relationship with food once and for all and gets...
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5 wellbeing resolutions for 2015

5 wellbeing resolutions for 2015

It’s a tricky time of year. Money can be tight after Christmas, exercise may have taken a back seat whilst you have instead indulged in second helpings. So many things to feel bad about and resolve to fix. Then there’s the build of up the big night on New Years eve, which - whether it was good or a bit of a let down - will leave most starting the year with a deathly hangover which you push aside, swearing it’s your last, and aiming to start fresh and embrace the whole new you in 2015. A whole new you is a whole lot of pressure to put on yourself, especially...
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Why is Saying no so Hard?

Why is Saying no so Hard?

Do you know how to say “no”? It’s such a small word but often one of the most difficult to say. Those of us who feel uncomfortable saying no are actually doing ourselves are disservice and often struggle with healthy boundaries. So what are boundaries? Boundaries are a way in which we keep ourselves mentally healthy and safe. We can see and feel physical boundaries. Have you ever had the experience of speaking to someone and feeling he or she was just too close? You move away and he or she still moves in on your space. We can see and feel these boundaries but...
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Why Dog Walking is Good for You

Why Dog Walking is Good for You

‘Alpha got lost for five hours,’ says one of the regular dog people as Albie, her working cocker spaniel, races around the park. ‘He followed a bitch on heat for miles, all the way to the main road. Now his mum’s had him snipped and she’s bought a tracking device’. We gasp in horror at the trauma. Alpha is a husky. I know him well, as does my dog Milo, a miniature schnauzer, who adores being pinned down by him and gently bitten on the neck. I don’t know his owner’s name (yes, I’m aware that the term ‘owner’ is seen in some rarified circles as non-pc, too clinical,...
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Can Making the Bed Change Your Life?

Can Making the Bed Change Your Life?

Have you ever wondered what an unmade bed says about you? could the way you leave your bed each morning reflect your state of mind?   In the sixties my family lived in one room on the top floor of a terraced house in South London. The bed took centre stage and if left unmade would throw the whole room into disarray. With the bed made, the room would take on a certain glow and everything else that needed to be tidied would fall into place. There are psychological as well as environmental benefits of a well-made bed. In a recent article, Make Your Bed For Peace...
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