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Why Do We Like Being Scared?

Why Do We Like Being Scared?

Horror. Danger. Suspense. What’s the attraction? There’s certainly no doubt that the attraction exists. Crime novels and dark tales of the occult regularly make their way into the best-seller lists, and horror films are ever popular. What’s so good about feeling scared, and how universal is the desire to do so? To answer these questions, we need to start with some definitions. It may surprise (but not frighten!) you to learn that humour, surprise and fear are closely related. The element that binds them is expectation. When something happens that is...
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What Do Your Dreams Mean?

What Do Your Dreams Mean?

Dreams, says Philippa Perry, are an important way of understanding ourselves. They are a metaphor for our psyches and a way of unpeeling our unconscious to reveal what we are truly thinking. Philippa’s dream workshop was the first co-production between welldoing.org and the how to: Academy; it was held at the beautiful Condé Nast College of Fashion and Design in Soho, London on October 28. I joined a capacity crowd to hear Philippa, a (non-practising) psychotherapist, teach us how to gather meaning from our nighttime adventures. She doesn't agree with Freud...
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What To Do When A Friend Is Bereaved

What To Do When A Friend Is Bereaved

When a close friend is bereaved – especially when the death is traumatic and unexpected – what’s the best way to offer support? Is emailing appropriate? Should you phone or rush round? What if they’re far away? It’s easy to feel paralysed and hopeless when everything you say sounds trite. If all you can come up with are glib phrases like ‘I can’t imagine the pain you’re in,’ or ‘I’m thinking of you constantly’, is it better to keep quiet? It’s essential, says integrative psychotherapist Sue Cowan-Jenssen, to realise that offering support is better than...
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The Power of Big Picture Thinking

The Power of Big Picture Thinking

The pace of modern life seems to continually hold us back from thinking about the bigger picture. Instead, we are locked into a world where we focus on simple facts and information. We do not dwell on context or seek a wider analysis in our conversations. It's also a world where we rarely pause to reflect upon more personal conceptual questions, such as who we are, where we are going, and what life is all about for us. These are the kind of questions that require us to ‘change gear’ in our thinking; to lift ourselves up from asking questions that require...
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Trolling: What Does it Say About Us?

Trolling: What Does it Say About Us?

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle.” - Plato A client of mine introduced me to the above quote and I thought about Brenda Leyland, the  63 year old woman who had been publicly confronted on television by Sky News reporter Martin Brunt for repeatedly tweeting false accusations about Gerry and Kate McCann, implicating them in the death of their daughter, Madeleine. Three days later she committed suicide, alone in an hotel room. Compassion or just simple kindness was missing both from Sky News reporting when they ‘outed’ her on live TV...
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Five Adventurous Wellbeing Retreats

Five Adventurous Wellbeing Retreats

Want some adventure with your wellbeing? On these wonderful healthy holidays you can see the world but look after yourself at the same time, says retreat journalist and founder of www.queenofretreats.com Caroline Sylger Jones.  Reclaim Your Self yoga holidays, Mongolia I’ve retreated with experienced yoga retreat company Reclaim Your Self a number of times really rate them, and I’m very excited they’ll be running Mongolia’s first yoga retreat in July 2015. You’ll get to be inside untamed wilderness and experience an ancient culture that’s changed little over...
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Surviving University: Freshers Week and Beyond

Surviving University: Freshers Week and Beyond

If you’re just starting university, you’ll probably know that it is an unprecedented opportunity to enjoy yourself, think, meet new people, learn new things, mess around with ideas and fully embrace your independence. Universities are awesome places, in the full, religious sense of ‘awesome’, and the ideals they purport to stand for are often under threat. So try to celebrate this time. I met wonderful friends, studied something I loved, and started to be the person I wanted to be. However, looking back, I didn't settle in quickly. Others took longer. Others still...
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Culture Tip: Pride

Culture Tip: Pride

When watching Pride, written by Stephen Beresford and directed by Matthew Warchus, a warm, witty and timely film based on true events during the miner's strike of 1984, I was reminded of one of my favourite protest posters of the late twentieth century: 'If Thatcher gets up your nose, picket'.  I was taken back to a period of my life when bucket-waving and badge-wearing were everyday occurrences. I recall a time of political certainty for myself and my peers. We knew we wanted 'Maggie, Maggie, Maggie, Out, Out, Out!' We didn't want to go to war. We didn't want...
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How I Fell in Love with a Dog

How I Fell in Love with a Dog

I didn't see this coming, this puppy love. If truth be told, I agreed to my teenage daughter's pleas for a dog because (a) I thought it would provide company for her in the evenings so that my husband and I could go out more easily,  and (b) I realised that I was never going to extricate myself from my desk without being forced. I could blame welldoing.org for that - launching a website is beyond hard work, and as long as you're sentient you will be sitting at a desk, gazing at a screen. Having done some research on the internet, we drove to Norfolk where a...
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Why Won't We Help Each Other Out?

Why Won't We Help Each Other Out?

What prompts us to ignore the distress of other people? We’ve all found ourselves in situations - the times we’ve seen someone taunted and didn’t intervene; when we’ve driven past a car that has broken down, assuming another driver would pull over to help. We’ve noticed a young man slumped on the pavement, and not gone over to check if he’s okay. We witness a problem; consider doing something, then respond by doing... nothing. Something holds us back. So why don’t we help in these situations? Apathy can immobilise us when we feel the impulse to flee and help at the...
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