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Should We Embrace Excess at Christmas?

Should We Embrace Excess at Christmas?

There are only 12 shopping days before Christmas, but I wonder if it’s time we all called time on the mad rush of thoughtless consumerism that seems to have overtaken the season. Confronted with heaps of packaged gifts, and adverts encouraging us to ‘buy , buy , buy’, the expressions that come to my mind as Christmas approaches are not ‘good cheer’ and 'merriness’ but   ‘enough’ and, ‘too much’. Before the Christmas turkey has even hit the table I’ve lost my appetite, overwhelmed by the sheer quantity of stuff. Yet these feelings aren’t straightforward....
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Using Mindfulness to Overcome Insomnia Part 2

Using Mindfulness to Overcome Insomnia Part 2

Continuing our run of mindfulness exercises to help you overcome insomnia, taken from Dr Guy Meadows' excellent book The Sleep Book: How to Sleep Well Every Night Noticing Your Thoughts We have the capacity to both notice and think about things. However, you may have observed that you spend more time thinking than you do noticing. On a recent holiday I saw an amazing sunset. Unfortunately, as soon as I saw it, I thought that I must take a photo to post on Facebook. As I searched for my camera, my mind drifted off onto all of the complimentary comments that friends...
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How to Be Vulnerable - and Find your Real Self

How to Be Vulnerable - and Find your Real Self

Feeling lonely sucks. And sometimes knowing what to say and how to be with others seems so hard that it feels easier to be lonely than taking the risk of rejection. We may feel cut off but perhaps that's better than showing what you really deep down feel and than having that part of you rejected. If we feel lonely and always keep part of ourselves hidden it may feel that at least that vulnerable part is safe. When beliefs like these dictate our actions it is a default mode of defence, such a strategy isn't consciously planned, rather we were trained for it...
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Welldoing.org's First Birthday

Welldoing.org's First Birthday

Happy Birthday welldoing.org! It’s one year since the content part of this site went live (the Find a Therapist directory came five months later). It’s been an exciting, mind-expanding journey which has taken me from old skool magazine editor to brave new world website founder, and in many ways, we have only just begun. However, I didn’t want this moment to pass without acknowledging what’s been achieved. We’ve had daily posts from an amazing array of experts, writers and practitioners —- people who are therapists and counsellors; psychologists who work in...
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Using Mindfulness to Overcome Insomnia

Using Mindfulness to Overcome Insomnia

Over the next few weekends, Welldoing is going to be running extracts from founder of the Sleep School, Dr Guy Meadows' The Sleep Book: How to Sleep Well Every Night. Using this excellent book, we are going to share some great tips and exercises to help you overcome insomnia with mindfulness: The first step to accepting your insomnia is to be able to notice yourself struggling in the first place. What you don’t see you can’t begin to let go of. This may sound obvious, but it is all too easy to fall into a pattern of mindless thinking, where we are completely unaware...
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Culture Tip: The Homesman

Culture Tip: The Homesman

Tommy Lee Jones writes, directs and stars in this western set in mid nineteenth century Nebraska, which highlights the story of women, and the hard lives they endured, encapsulated in Hilary Swank’s powerful performance as Mary Bee Cuddy.   She is a resourceful hard working single woman in her early thirties, running from heavy field work, to a quick wash and brush up, as she prepares a meal for Bob, her slim prospect for change. Having fed and entertained him, she proposes marriage, in an effort to make both their lives easier, but he tells her she’s bossy and too...
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Using Mindfulness to Banish Negative Self-Talk

Using Mindfulness to Banish Negative Self-Talk

How do you feel about 'future you'?  Can you see possibilities and positive things for your future or is your future negative and difficult? When faced with a new challenge, do you find yourself filled with self-doubt? "I'll never be able to do this", or "I'm not good enough", or "I can't". How do you feel about 'past you'? When you judge yourself in a negative way it can lower your self-esteem. For example, when you've made a mistake, do you tend to judge yourself for it? Does your self-talk include comments such as "How could I be so stupid?"...
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Culture Tip: Grayson Perry's Who Are You?

Culture Tip: Grayson Perry's Who Are You?

The Turner Prize-winning artist Grayson Perry talking recently about Who Are You?, his display of new works at the National Portrait Gallery in London, commented that, “identity is one of those words that gets used a lot particularly in political terms and it always seems a slippery term to me”. In this diverse collection of 14 portraits shown in the Gallery’s nineteenth and twentieth century rooms Perry uses his fierce intelligence and particularly winning aesthetic to try to pin that term down. The works have all been made in response to meeting...
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The True Value of Volunteering in Sport

The True Value of Volunteering in Sport

Here at Join In, we often see the effect that volunteering has on people. We love hearing how rewarding our volunteers find it to help others, and make a difference in their communities. So we decided to look into the subject a little bit more with an independent online survey. What did we find? Our first conclusion was that volunteering in sport makes you happier. This wasn’t exactly new- previous research in other volunteering sectors has found much the same thing. The big question was how much happier? Could we quantify this? Well, yes we could. The results...
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The Runners: Life on the Move

The Runners: Life on the Move

The Runners, a short documentary film by Matan Rochlitz and Ivo Gormley, is a surprisingly uplifting look at ordinary lives on the move. Since it was released in November 2013 it has had over 210,000 views on YouTube. Shot from a bike with a cart attached for the cameraman, Rochlitz and Gormley questioned fair and foul weather runners and joggers in Victoria Park, East London about some of the most intimate areas of their lives. Apparently distracted by the process of running or disconcerted by the couple’s unusual interviewing technique the runners drop their...
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