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Talking to Your Daughter About Sex and Relationships

Talking to Your Daughter About Sex and Relationships

Mothers and teenage daughters have more quarrels than any other parent/child pair. Yet in spite of their arguments – which come on average at a rate of one every two and a half days -  their interactions are normally rich with vitality and provide a valuable source of understanding both for the daughter who is using her mother as a sounding board for her developing identity, and for the mother who is trying to keep up to date with the mysterious teen who has usurped the little girl she once understood so well. One inescapable and contentious issue is sex - sexuality,...
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Is Your Partner a Sociopath?

Is Your Partner a Sociopath?

Sociopaths are people with little or no conscience or ability to empathize with other peoples’ feelings. One sociopath in the course of their lifetime will harm many people but hurt most those with whom they have intimate and close relations. Although many operate as seeming ‘model citizens’, behind the façade they have interpersonal deficits such as grandiosity, arrogance and deceitfulness, lack of guilt and empathy, and impulsive and occasionally criminal behaviours. It’s easy to miss these traits in someone you love because you are not expecting to see them....
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How to Recover From an Affair

How to Recover From an Affair

Discovering an affair is an agonising business. But there are many experts and real-life couples who would say that just because an affair has occured does not mean that a marriage or relationship is doomed to end. It may take months, even years, but some marriages are even improved by the experience. Here's our advice on recovering from an affair:  You have to talk to your partner. What might have passed for conversation before this is nothing compared with the details and depths you will have to reach. And, importantly, so will they. If you are attempting...
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Can We Love Our Children Equally?

Can We Love Our Children Equally?

Can we love all our children equally? This question concerned me even before my first three children were born. They are triplets – now mature young women – but even while they were jostling for position in the womb, I wondered how I'd ever be able to divvy up my time, energy and resources fairly and remain sane. From the moment it dawned on me that it was physically impossible to feed all three at once, console all three at once, or carry all three at once, I thought I would struggle to be the parent I wanted to be, and I wondered if there would be enough love to go...
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Why My Relationship with My Brother Led Me to See a Therapist

Why My Relationship with My Brother Led Me to See a Therapist

Throughout my 20s and 30s I saw people going into therapy as a different species, inhabiting a different emotional terrain to mine. I might get into incomprehensible states about things, reel at what felt like rejection over the smallest things; give headspace to toxic, malign feelings about someone I thought  had treated me wrong. But if there was a problem, I should be able to sort it out myself. Shouldn’t I? The day eventually came when I knew I couldn’t sort it out myself. My brother and his wife were coming to visit with their first, new baby and I was hideously...
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A Jewish Family Christmas

A Jewish Family Christmas

Going away to a secluded part of the Norfolk countryside for a week, with 12 members of your family, ranging from in age from nine to 90, may strike fear into the hearts of most normal folk. And yet, my family has insisted on making this a sadistic tradition for the past three years. I’m currently writing this amidst a storm of testosterone over a heated game of Risk. Family reputation is on the line here. And I find myself reluctantly pulled into conversations about football, as the only younger woman in a family of men: 3 male cousins, 2  brothers, and me. In the...
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How to do Christmas Lunch, Without Crying

How to do Christmas Lunch, Without Crying

That moment has come – lights and decorations are shining in our faces, crackers exploding, everywhere we turn we are reminded of holidays, fun excitement – it’s the best moment of the year.  Everyone’s gathered to celebrate around the table, to celebrate being together and eating together and cooking together. Even teenagers seem to enjoy Christmas. But there is a dark side, too. Christmas has a dark side. It starts weeks earlier. It’s started now. Fears grow about lists and shopping: will it be good enough, will I make a mess of it, will everyone be happy with their...
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Polyamoury: a New Type of Love

Polyamoury: a New Type of Love

What is polyamoury, otherwise known as an "open relationship"? Welldoing asked a twentysomething exponent  to open up about her unusual experience.  How does polyamoury work? Good question. Honest answer is this: lots of planning, trying to be unselfish, lots of communication and sometimes it doesn’t. How long have you been doing it? Four years and four months. So you have a boyfriend..? Yes. I have a boyfriend. He’s married to his wife. She has a boyfriend. There’re four of us in total. I am in relationship with my boyfriend (J) and I am friends...
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