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Coming Out as a BiSexual Sportsman

Coming Out as a BiSexual Sportsman

The hardest conversation I have ever had about my sexual orientation was in a car full of my team mates on the way back from practice. I had decided weeks before that it was time I became more publicly comfortable with my sexuality. No longer could I be afraid of what people would say, how differently people would treat me, or more specifically - how my friendships with other guys would change. It was as if what I had said required no bravery, or was not in the least bit surprising to him So I am on this bi-weekly journey home (excuse the pun), when my friend James...
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How Tiger Parenting Kills Curiosity

How Tiger Parenting Kills Curiosity

The generally endorsed truth that children’s intelligence is influenced by their environment has provided fertile ground for theories of how to increase a child’s success.  No longer are intelligence and talent located in fixed genetic material; instead, these are recognised as characteristics that develop over decades.  Recent fads for sure-fire ways of fostering successful brain development include the “Mozart effect” – whereby IQ improved (only temporarily) by 8-9 points after 10 minutes exposure to a Mozart sonata – and, more recently, the "tiger parent" syndrome...
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Are You in a Relationship With a Narcissist?

Are You in a Relationship With a Narcissist?

All of us can be selfish at times, but some of us are selfish all of the time! There’s nothing wrong with a little ‘me-time’, but some people are so self-preoccupied that they're unable to form healthy relationships. If that sounds like your partner, you may be in a relationship with a narcissist. Narcissists, in bygone days called megalomaniacs or severely egocentric, are people who spend the entire time wrapped up in themselves. Narcissism occurs in a spectrum of severity. In its more extreme form it is narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), which affects...
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Taking Care of Our Elderly

Taking Care of Our Elderly

More and more of us have an elderly relative in residential care. Currently more than 400,000 people in the UK live in care homes, a figure which is bound to rise further, given the ageing population (there are currently 3 million people aged over 80 in the UK, and that figure is predicted to almost double by 2030. Currently one-in-six of the UK population is aged over 65; by 2050 it will be one-in-four). NICE the (National Institute for Health and Care Excellence) has issued new guidance on improving the mental wellbeing of older people in residential care, via a...
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Talking to Your Daughter About Sex and Relationships

Talking to Your Daughter About Sex and Relationships

Mothers and teenage daughters have more quarrels than any other parent/child pair. Yet in spite of their arguments – which come on average at a rate of one every two and a half days -  their interactions are normally rich with vitality and provide a valuable source of understanding both for the daughter who is using her mother as a sounding board for her developing identity, and for the mother who is trying to keep up to date with the mysterious teen who has usurped the little girl she once understood so well. One inescapable and contentious issue is sex - sexuality,...
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Is Your Partner a Sociopath?

Is Your Partner a Sociopath?

Sociopaths are people with little or no conscience or ability to empathize with other peoples’ feelings. One sociopath in the course of their lifetime will harm many people but hurt most those with whom they have intimate and close relations. Although many operate as seeming ‘model citizens’, behind the façade they have interpersonal deficits such as grandiosity, arrogance and deceitfulness, lack of guilt and empathy, and impulsive and occasionally criminal behaviours. It’s easy to miss these traits in someone you love because you are not expecting to see them....
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How to Recover From an Affair

How to Recover From an Affair

Discovering an affair is an agonising business. But there are many experts and real-life couples who would say that just because an affair has occured does not mean that a marriage or relationship is doomed to end. It may take months, even years, but some marriages are even improved by the experience. Here's our advice on recovering from an affair:  You have to talk to your partner. What might have passed for conversation before this is nothing compared with the details and depths you will have to reach. And, importantly, so will they. If you are attempting...
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Can We Love Our Children Equally?

Can We Love Our Children Equally?

Can we love all our children equally? This question concerned me even before my first three children were born. They are triplets – now mature young women – but even while they were jostling for position in the womb, I wondered how I'd ever be able to divvy up my time, energy and resources fairly and remain sane. From the moment it dawned on me that it was physically impossible to feed all three at once, console all three at once, or carry all three at once, I thought I would struggle to be the parent I wanted to be, and I wondered if there would be enough love to go...
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Why My Relationship with My Brother Led Me to See a Therapist

Why My Relationship with My Brother Led Me to See a Therapist

Throughout my 20s and 30s I saw people going into therapy as a different species, inhabiting a different emotional terrain to mine. I might get into incomprehensible states about things, reel at what felt like rejection over the smallest things; give headspace to toxic, malign feelings about someone I thought  had treated me wrong. But if there was a problem, I should be able to sort it out myself. Shouldn’t I? The day eventually came when I knew I couldn’t sort it out myself. My brother and his wife were coming to visit with their first, new baby and I was hideously...
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A Jewish Family Christmas

A Jewish Family Christmas

Going away to a secluded part of the Norfolk countryside for a week, with 12 members of your family, ranging from in age from nine to 90, may strike fear into the hearts of most normal folk. And yet, my family has insisted on making this a sadistic tradition for the past three years. I’m currently writing this amidst a storm of testosterone over a heated game of Risk. Family reputation is on the line here. And I find myself reluctantly pulled into conversations about football, as the only younger woman in a family of men: 3 male cousins, 2  brothers, and me. In the...
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