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How Tiger Parenting Kills Curiosity

How Tiger Parenting Kills Curiosity

The generally endorsed truth that children’s intelligence is influenced by their environment has provided fertile ground for theories of how to increase a child’s success.  No longer are intelligence and talent located in fixed genetic material; instead, these are recognised as characteristics that develop over decades.  Recent fads for sure-fire ways of fostering successful brain development include the “Mozart effect” – whereby IQ improved (only temporarily) by 8-9 points after 10 minutes exposure to a Mozart sonata – and, more recently, the "tiger parent" syndrome...
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Are You in a Relationship With a Narcissist?

Are You in a Relationship With a Narcissist?

All of us can be selfish at times, but some of us are selfish all of the time! There’s nothing wrong with a little ‘me-time’, but some people are so self-preoccupied that they're unable to form healthy relationships. If that sounds like your partner, you may be in a relationship with a narcissist. Narcissists, in bygone days called megalomaniacs or severely egocentric, are people who spend the entire time wrapped up in themselves. Narcissism occurs in a spectrum of severity. In its more extreme form it is narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), which affects...
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Taking Care of Our Elderly

Taking Care of Our Elderly

More and more of us have an elderly relative in residential care. Currently more than 400,000 people in the UK live in care homes, a figure which is bound to rise further, given the ageing population (there are currently 3 million people aged over 80 in the UK, and that figure is predicted to almost double by 2030. Currently one-in-six of the UK population is aged over 65; by 2050 it will be one-in-four). NICE the (National Institute for Health and Care Excellence) has issued new guidance on improving the mental wellbeing of older people in residential care, via a...
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Is Your Partner a Sociopath?

Is Your Partner a Sociopath?

Sociopaths are people with little or no conscience or ability to empathize with other peoples’ feelings. One sociopath in the course of their lifetime will harm many people but hurt most those with whom they have intimate and close relations. Although many operate as seeming ‘model citizens’, behind the façade they have interpersonal deficits such as grandiosity, arrogance and deceitfulness, lack of guilt and empathy, and impulsive and occasionally criminal behaviours. It’s easy to miss these traits in someone you love because you are not expecting to see them....
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Can We Love Our Children Equally?

Can We Love Our Children Equally?

Can we love all our children equally? This question concerned me even before my first three children were born. They are triplets – now mature young women – but even while they were jostling for position in the womb, I wondered how I'd ever be able to divvy up my time, energy and resources fairly and remain sane. From the moment it dawned on me that it was physically impossible to feed all three at once, console all three at once, or carry all three at once, I thought I would struggle to be the parent I wanted to be, and I wondered if there would be enough love to go...
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A Jewish Family Christmas

A Jewish Family Christmas

Going away to a secluded part of the Norfolk countryside for a week, with 12 members of your family, ranging from in age from nine to 90, may strike fear into the hearts of most normal folk. And yet, my family has insisted on making this a sadistic tradition for the past three years. I’m currently writing this amidst a storm of testosterone over a heated game of Risk. Family reputation is on the line here. And I find myself reluctantly pulled into conversations about football, as the only younger woman in a family of men: 3 male cousins, 2  brothers, and me. In the...
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How to do Christmas Lunch, Without Crying

How to do Christmas Lunch, Without Crying

That moment has come – lights and decorations are shining in our faces, crackers exploding, everywhere we turn we are reminded of holidays, fun excitement – it’s the best moment of the year.  Everyone’s gathered to celebrate around the table, to celebrate being together and eating together and cooking together. Even teenagers seem to enjoy Christmas. But there is a dark side, too. Christmas has a dark side. It starts weeks earlier. It’s started now. Fears grow about lists and shopping: will it be good enough, will I make a mess of it, will everyone be happy with their...
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