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05Mar

Life After a Break Up Part 2

Chris Taylor

counselling, couple, love, single, therapy

Therapists

The second part of our advice on how to move on after a break up - this week focusing on loss, acceptance and impermanence.
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26Feb

Life After a Break Up

Chris Taylor

breakups, couple, love, relationships, single

Therapists

The end of a relationship can be traumatic, no matter what the circumstances. Welldoing therapist Chris Taylor offers his healing tips in a 2 part series.
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13Feb

10 Ways to Sweep Yourself Off Your Feet This Valentine's Day

Anonymous

love, self, single, tips, wellbeing

Soul

Sigh. It’s V-day. Plastic, commercialised love is all around. No, maybe that’s not entirely fair; why shouldn’t couples have a day to show some (cheesy) appreciation? But for people who don’t fit the cookie-cutter template it can be frustratingly difficult to avoid Valentine's day. Many people feel increasing pressure and self-criticism for not being partnered up this February 14th. I don’t see that hypocrite Cupid flying around with his girlfriend or boyfriend all the time, but somehow we’re all supposed to feel that way on this day. Here’s...
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05Dec

Sex: Have You Ever Regretted The Night Before?

Terri Apter

men, sex, single, society, women

Relationships

Is there a topic more emotive, fraught and confused than sex and consent, versus sex and coercion? Impaled on the shameful histories of silencing women and violence against women, many solutions are value driven but goal blind.  How far will the recent call for explicit consent go in protecting women from being victims of rape and men from being perpetrators of rape? One in seven students who responded said that they had experienced serious physical or sexual assault at University. In an NUS survey conducted four years ago, one in seven students who...
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12Aug

Millennials Struggle To Find "The One"

Alice Stapleton

love, marriage, single

Relationships

For many years, I have been coaching professionals in their late 20s who come to me wanting to discuss their careers. However, over time, it becomes clear that there is a more pressing issue they are struggling with - the pressure to find someone to settle down with. There is definitely something about progressing towards...
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13Jun

The Psychology of a One-Night Stand

Terri Apter

LGBT, sex, single

Relationships

The stereotype of a one-night stand is a brutally selfish, egoistically satisfied male, and a woman shamed by regret and disappointment. Yet a memorable counter offensive was launched more than 40 years ago when Erica Jong, in her novel Fear of Flying, celebrated a female fantasy where “zippers fell away like rose petals, underwear blew off in one breath like dandelion fluff”. And, with the subsiding ecstasy, your partner melted away, freeing you both from embarrassment and commitment. For many men and women, this is the promise of a one-night stand.  The “zipless...
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09Jun

"Breaking up is Hard To Do"

Susan Quilliam

couple, divorce, love, marriage, single

Therapists

The moment when we end a relationship - or have an ending thrust upon us - is almost always exquisitely painful. But of course it's not just the moment of break up that hurts. The aftermath, as we recover, is arguably just as painful not least because it lasts longer - sometimes for years. After the early 'phoney war' of feeling convinced that reconciliation is just around the corner, or of feeling relieved that the vicious arguments are now over, it is then that the long-term suffering begins. Yes, some of us 'keep calm and carry on', and parting...
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07May

Online Dating - the Secrets to Success

Susan Quilliam

couple, love, marriage, single

Therapists

I'm a huge fan of online dating. I have several friends and many clients who have found love that way. And when it works, it works well; a recent study suggests that couples who meet online are more likely to move successfully through the infamous 'seven year breakpoint' than couples who meet in traditional ways. But online dating is often challenging. For many, the journey, however hopefully started, often becomes a yo-yo of frustration and self-doubt as well as excitement and hope. In my work I've come to recognise 'online dating disillusionment' when I see...
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05Dec

Fancy a Shag? There's an App For That

Aaron Balick

LGBT, sex, single

Therapists

Therapist Aaron Balick looks at dating in the modern day - does technology help or hinder in the search for relationships?
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