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How to Cope with Infertility

How to Cope with Infertility

Anya Sizer has a background in coaching and is the Patient Co-Ordinator for the London Women's Clinic and the Bridge Clinic in London. You can visit her website here. She has worked with hundreds of women, and couples, over the past decade who have struggled to conceive, and is a passionate advocate for fertility patients. She runs a weekly support group in Central London and speaks at conferences and workshops around fertility issues. She is also the mother of two IVF children and one adopted child, and happens to be a friend too. I chatted with her...
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Why do we procrastinate so much?

Why do we procrastinate so much?

I used an expression with my therapist the other day, ‘high on the hog’ and he wasn’t sure what I meant. I thought it was a common enough saying implying luxurious or affluent, but, as therapists do, he wanted to know more. “Why that phrase? What did it mean for me?” As I sat down to write about how and why we procrastinate I remembered this exchange. It suddenly became vital for me to know the etymology of ‘high on the hog’ and within moments Google had provided the answer. One interesting fact led to another and before I knew it more than 40 minutes...
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7 Myths about Changing your Relationship with Food

7 Myths about Changing your Relationship with Food

Do you ever feel that your relationship with food is doomed to failure? How can you truly break old habits and move to a relaxed and enjoyable place where you can eat out effortlessly and feel proud and comfortable of your body? Maybe you feel that you can skip along quite happily for a few weeks and then suddenly, wham, bam, you are back to flicking furiously through diet magazines for the latest craze; weighing yourself obsessively twice a day and piling on the body self-loathing with intensity. Why? Why? You really thought that this time you had it sussed. Here...
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10 Reasons to Adjust your Relationship with Food

10 Reasons to Adjust your Relationship with Food

Harriet Frew is a therapist who specialises in disordered eating. Here are her reasons why this year should be the one you finally sort out your relationship with food, for good: 1) Because life is too darned short to be filling your head with thoughts about the calorie content of your next meal or the size of your bottom. 60,000 thoughts per day – let’s use some of this thinking time for stuff that really matters! 2) Because you know deep-down that the next diet is NOT going to be the magic wand that fixes your relationship with food once and for all and gets...
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Why Counsellors are so Busy at Christmas

Why Counsellors are so Busy at Christmas

Although Christmas is a festive period it's not always a happy time for everyone. Some people really struggle with life in December, perhaps more-so than at any other time of the year. As a result it is quite a common time for people to seek out a counsellor and start having counselling. This is partly because of the widespread preconceptions that we have about Christmas and the New Year, that this whole period should be a happy, sparkly, carefree time for socialising and celebrating with friends and family. But if the reality of our lives doesn't match...
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5 tips for feeling good about your post-baby body

5 tips for feeling good about your post-baby body

You have carried your baby for nine months and for thousands of steps. You have gone through labour; oh so aptly named! Your body feels bashed, stretched, worn out and exhausted. Your tummy may have that rounded look of an early pregnancy (or more), and for many women this is not their best moment of body confidence.  But  for a little while, this all blurs into insignificance as you hold your beautiful new born in your arms. However, within hours of giving birth, women can feel under incredible pressure to lose the baby weight and get back in their jeans....
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What is Dynamic Running Therapy?

What is Dynamic Running Therapy?

We are becoming increasingly aware of the holistic nature of physical and mental health, the knowledge that the mind and the body affect one another and both need our care for overall wellbeing. Doing exercise releases hormones to your brain which boost self-esteem, help you concentrate and help you get more sleep - all important factors in mental health. Exercise clubs, such as running clubs, are also a great way to meet new people. You don't have to be running half marathons to benefit from exercise: going for a walk, cycling to work, getting off the bus a few...
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Man up for Psychotherapy

Man up for Psychotherapy

When it comes to the talking therapies, it is definitely not a man’s world. Not only are women far more likely to opt for a talking therapy when feeling distressed, but as Andrew Samuels pointed out in a previous post, more than 80% of BACP members are female. In this simple context it’s no wonder some men may wonder if therapy was really for them. Wouldn’t it be better to just “man up”, like their fathers did? “Getting on with it” is certainly a British trait, one which many trace back to distant fathers returning from war unable to speak about their...
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Show Some Self-Compassion

Show Some Self-Compassion

We all know about compassion – the recent Children in Need and Band Aid campaigns reminds us again how much we can be moved to try and alleviate the suffering of others. Christmas time ignites giving in a lot of us. However, turning this motivation inward, to ourselves, is often very challenging. Research done in this field tells us so, but I also see this every day in my practice. The Dalai Lama talked about it when he first came to the West – he found it remarkable how mean we can be to ourselves. And I'd argue, along with the research again, that...
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Coping with a Relationship Crisis

Coping with a Relationship Crisis

When you are going through a relationship crisis and you don't know if the relationship is over, or if you are in fact dealing with the ending of a relationship, it's an incredibly difficult time. You may find yourself struggling to cope emotionally, which of course has an impact on your ability to deal with day-to-day life. At such times, some people find they have trouble sleeping or eating, while others may start to over indulge with food as a way to stuff down the feelings and numb the pain. Some people start to drink more than usual to block out their...
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