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Therapists and Pets: Is Three a Crowd in the Consulting Room?

Therapists and Pets: Is Three a Crowd in the Consulting Room?

When therapists talk about providing a ‘safe space’ where clients feel able to open up we are usually speaking metaphorically. We mean to indicate that the consulting room will be a place where everything is treated confidentially and judgements are on hold  regarding what is said or done by the client. But ‘safe space’ took on quite a different significance for the unsuspecting client who, towards the end of her session and in mid-thought, was attacked by a Manchester therapist’s cat. The feline who broke the therapeutic boundary had slipped unnoticed through an...
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Why the Average Diet Doesn’t Fit the Unique You

Why the Average Diet Doesn’t Fit the Unique You

When people discover I’m a nutritional therapist, they often look down in dismay at the food in their hand (e.g. a salty tortilla chip at a party) and say: “I bet you’re thinking I shouldn’t be eating this.” No actually. I’m more likely to be wondering how this particular food will interact with your unique body and the individual way it works. That food may work ok for you, but not for me, or vice versa. We’re all different. In the same way that our eye colour is determined by our genetic make-up, so is our body’s response to food. No two individuals are genetically...
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Writing Fiction Airs My Demons

Writing Fiction Airs My Demons

Writing is a form of therapy. The creative act seems as necessary for my mental health as a social life and exercise. And beyond that, I find that my deeper, darker soul emerges in my novels in ways I never expect… We all know that diary and letter writing can be cathartic  -  and certainly my own teenage diaries were where I worked out the passions and indignities of life – but writing longer fiction works as therapy on several different levels. I’m not proposing that we should all attempt to write full-length novels, because it’s horribly difficult and takes...
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Holistic Massage

Holistic Massage

The term holistic has become so widely used, it means practically nothing these days. While it’s true that holistic is often shorthand for a bit of incense or whale music, a proper holistic massage can be an extraordinary treatment. Here’s why: A holistic therapist will have the sensitivity to meet your needs as a person, not just treat a problem S/he will have a wide range of massage skills Will listen without judgment Will be able to assess what kind of touch will suit you Explore the origins of stress related issues Will be...
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Take Your Yoga Practice Outdoors

Take Your Yoga Practice Outdoors

Taking your yoga practice out of the studio and into a natural environment is a refreshing way to take your exercise outdoors this summer; after all, yoga is not just about connecting with yourself, but also with the environment surrounding you.  People can be put off from doing yoga outdoors for several reasons: they may feel self-conscious, uncomfortable about the thought of getting dirty or sandy, or feel that it’s more convenient to schedule a studio class. With planning and a sense of adventure these can be overcome and the benefits are worth the small added...
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The Toxic Legacy of Jimmy Savile

The Toxic Legacy of Jimmy Savile

It’s more than a year and a half since the first shockwaves of the Jimmy Savile sex abuse story hit, and I find it harder than ever to listen to the seemingly endless avalanche of disturbing voices testifying to the horrors he inflicted while the world looked the other way. I can’t say exactly how I came to ‘know it’, but the news story when it broke in the autumn of 2012 only served to confirm what I already knew in my guts; that Savile was a predatory abuser. Interestingly a lot of people I’ve discussed this with have also said the same thing.  We all somehow knew...
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The Draper Complex: When a Man Turns Against His Defences

The Draper Complex: When a Man Turns Against His Defences

Mad Men's Don Draper is not Tony Soprano.  The weird world of psychoanalysing fictional figures  had a field day with the latter – from labelling him with narcissistic or anti-social personality disorder to settling on a severe Oedipus Complex.Whatever the conclusion, the Mafia boss was clearly symptomatic. However little you’d expect a man like Tony to seek psychotherapy, he had to. You cannot run the North Jersey crime syndicate while suffering panic attacks. People don’t turn against their defences when they are perceived to be working in their...
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Why is There So Much Anxiety?

Why is There So Much Anxiety?

Given that we enjoy longer and healthier lives, why are so many of us suffering from anxiety? We do live in an increasingly competitive society. We are bombarded with images of ‘success’. Are we thin enough, handsome enough, rich enough, and clever enough?  We readily use words like ‘success’ and ‘failure’, yet what do these terms really mean? It doesn’t occur to us that these ordinary concerns might be a symbolic reflection of our anxiety about mortality. In my work as a therapist I have come to understand that, often, underlying our deepest anxieties are...
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Lymphatic Drainage Massage

Lymphatic Drainage Massage

What is it good for? This deceptively gentle treatment can have a powerful effect on any swelling or puffiness in the body. It is widely used for medical purposes and there is lots of research to back the beneficial effects of lymphatic drainage on recovery after surgery. It has also been found to be effective for: Helping bruising to heal more quickly Pain management Preventing infection Treating lymphedema caused by cancer treatment Promoting the healing of fractures and ligaments and reducing the associated pain Promoting the healing of...
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Top 5 Sea Retreats

Top 5 Sea Retreats

Go with your lover to the Maldives Spa time at Constance Halaveli (above) If my husband and I ever won the lottery, it’s the Maldives we’d head to first, to have treatments, drink champagne and plan our new life together. There are all sorts of glamorous retreats out there, but we rather liked Constance Halaveli in the Ari Atoll, a civilised island with mahogany-lined over-water villas, exceptionally good Balinese therapists (ask for Ayu) in the over-water U Spa by Constance and delectable seafood (we got addicted to the reef fish balls). Hang out in the hot pools...
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