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Politics, Psychotherapy and Boarding School

Politics, Psychotherapy and Boarding School

“You don’t have to be mad to work here, but it helps,” read the sign in the ‘greasy-spoon’ café behind whose steamed up windows I had sheltered from the dissolving heavens. Yes, I must be bonkers, I thought. While normal psychotherapists open their doors to all-comers I had somehow ended up specialising in gender – where you always end up treading on someone’s hallowed post-modernist turf – in couple relationships – where the difficult road to intimacy challenges not only the clients – and ex-boarders! For a quarter of a century I have been pioneering a...
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Boarding School Survivors

Boarding School Survivors

“Are we going to be head of rugby?” a well-dressed mother self-consciously jokes with another. They stand by their BMWs in the forecourt of a prep school accepting their tiny sons for the first time. Trunks have been carried in, housemasters have made brisk reassuring comments, and the ‘settling in period’ has begun. There are no tears. The scene comes from a BBC 40 Minutes documentary, made 20 years ago, called The Making of Them, in which young boarders were discreetly filmed over their first few weeks at prep school. It is available on YouTube, but careful: it...
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