What attracted you to become a therapist?
I spent many years working in a very busy and stressful environment and noticed myself and others around me burning out. I started seeing a cognitive hypnotherapist who helped me find a far more positive outlook on life, to notice what was truly important to me and what wasn’t. I realised helping others to find happiness in a fulfilled life was what I wanted to do. It was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.
Where did you train?
The Quest Institute at Regents University, London under the founder of Cognitive Hypnotherapy, Trevor Silvester. I’m currently studying for my Master Practitioner qualification.
What sort of people do you usually see?
It can be incredibly varied however I don’t see clients under the age of 16. My clients come from all walks of life. When I first meet a client I focus how we work together entirely on the individual, I do not use a ‘one size fits all' approach.
What do you like about being a therapist?
The feeling that comes with hearing that a client is feeling happier, better and excited for what is to come in life. Watching a client grow week by week and take ownership of their progress is such a powerful thing.
What is less pleasant?
It is never nice to hear the struggles people have to go through in life, however, helping them turn adversity into success is a great tool: figuring out how to use the negatives and turn them into a positive outcome.
How long have you been with welldoing.org and what you think of us?
Only a couple of months but I think it’s a great site with brilliant articles and support.
Have you used the booking and payment system? And how do you find that?
I’ve just signed up to it today!
Have you joined the welldoing.org Therapist Community on Facebook? If so, how did you find it?
I have although I haven’t had much time to use it yet I’m afraid!
Do you ever suggest books or apps to clients?
Absolutely, books can be such a useful tool for the client to continue the work in between sessions and in their own time. I never set official ‘homework’ but I often make suggestions.
What you do for your own mental health?
I love to journal, practice conscious mindfulness and gratitude. I also love to walk, I’ve found walking to be one of the best ways to ensure my brain is ready for the day.
What’s your consultation room like?
I work from home in my office, I’ve kept it very simple, my desk in the window and two chairs for therapy. There’s always a box of tissues on the table between myself and the client and I have a relaxation scent diffuser to ensure it’s a calm place for the client.
What do you wish people knew about therapy?
That you don’t need a lot of it! Obviously, it varies on a case by case basis however I strongly believe that therapy does not need to be a long-term thing that continues for years.
What did you learn about yourself in therapy?
I learnt to take responsibility for my own happiness and success, that I have one chance at life and I need to grab it with both hands and make the most of it. I also learnt to listen to myself more, to be kinder to myself and be more mindful of my own needs.
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