Meet the Coach: Paula Crowhurst
What attracted you to become a coach?
Going through a traumatic marriage break up in 2015, I learnt that there are four phases of divorce: pre, planning, processing and post.
Coping with change as a result of divorce has an impact on the rest of one’s life and one’s children.
I decided to flip the negative time in my life into something positive by helping others to get through what is a an extremely harrowing time.
Being described as a very insightful and intuitive person, I use these skills to help my clients throughout this emotional journey, to come to terms with the changes, understand and master these emotions and work with them to move them through the phases as smoothly and painlessly as possible.
Where did you train?
I trained with the The Divorce Coaching Academy. The DCA’s Diploma in Professional Divorce Coaching is externally accredited by the Association of Coaching.
The mentors for the course are Dr Sue Palmer-Conn, Tom Nash and Mel Murphy.
What kind of coaching do you offer?
Divorce coaching is a flexible, goal orientated process designed to support, motivate and guide individuals going through such a difficult time and help make the best possible decisions for the future.
After an initial free discovery call, I provide 60-90 mins coaching with additional 24/7 support via text, email or phone. This can be face to face or via Zoom.
I also provide discernment coaching.
Why is divorce coaching worth it?
Individuals entering into divorce are often overwhelmed and afraid. The future they had planned is disappearing. Clients often feel alone and isolated and totally ignorant about the process of divorce. They feel powerless and fearful of the future. Clients need reassurance that they will get through this with minimal disruption and will someday find a new normal and peace of mind.
What sort of coaching clients do you usually see?
My clients are both men and women, however, primarily woman aged 45 plus. These women have given up their career to raise a family. Their children have flown the nest closely followed by their spouse because of an extra-marital affair(s).
Do you ever suggest books or other materials to clients?
I do suggest appropriate literature, books, podcasts, etc… Too many to name here!
I am the author of Keep On Swimming Freddie!, a heartwarming story written for children to help them understand and handle their emotions due to the break-up of their parents.
What do you like about being a coach?
I am passionate about helping individuals to realise their self-worth and belief. It is important that they don’t stay stuck in their divorce story. Stepping out of their comfort zone and facing new challenges is a way to move forward.
I am living proof that it is not what happens to you that defines you, but how you respond to it!
What is less pleasant?
The grief following divorce.
What is one life lesson you try to live by?
The past is behind you – learn from it. The future is ahead – prepare for it. The present is here – live it!
What do you wish people knew about coaching?
Having a divorce coach at the very beginning, before even reaching the separation stage, can help clients work through the logistics and business of divorce, making it less overwhelming, less terrifying and allowing them to put more energy and thought into how they and their spouse are going to reduce the negative impact on their family as much as possible.
Do you have a favourite client testimonial or particular success story?
“I have worked with multiple therapists and Paula has a way that is unique compared to all. I feel very cared for with Paula, I feel more than a just one of her clients, but someone who she really cares about. Also I feel she is extremely down to earth, practical and insightful. I actually wanted suggestions and and I wanted honest talk, and honest feedback and this is what I got. This approach broke through my constantly thinking and unhelpful mind. She helped me see clearly the pros and cons of my thinking towards divorce, and this clarity for head helped me know clearly I do not want to divorce my wife.”