Gail found that her dating Kryptonite was a common one- her phone. She got better at being honest on dates and trusting her own thinking. But when it came to communicating with guys, her anxiety remained stubbornly at the controls. After a good date, she'd spend the next twenty-four hours absolutely glued to her phone, waiting for a text or app message from a guy to secure the next date.

A person can have every intention of staying calm and collected when a new love interest enters the scene, but technology often keeps us from staying focused on ourselves. Our phones and social media allow us to take a laser-like focus on this new person.

Post-date purgatory looks like:

• excessively Googling someone
• excavating their past social media
• checking to see if they've logged into an app
• texting your friends to analyse the last date
• checking to see if they've seen your text or post