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4 Things I Wish I'd Known When I Started Working

Jan 26, 2015

Fergus O'Connell

Fergus O'Connell

Jan 26, 2015

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In the UK, work-related stress is deemed the biggest cause of sickness in the country, with over 105 million days lost to stress each year.

Thankfully, there are some things you can do to alleviate this stress or even to not get caught up in it in the first place. Projects, presentations, meetings and sales are all common reasons people are feeling stressed at work. But the one which I'd like to address here is bosses. A strained relationship with an employer can be one of the biggest causes of stress at work, so here are four things to bear in mind if you are trying to cultivate a better relationship with your boss this year:

1 Bosses are human too

As a result of this, they make mistakes. This means that when your boss makes a decision that you think is faulty, in some situations it can be important and helpful to explain how you are feeling. This will take some self-belief, for sure, but the only way they can know how you are feeling is to talk to them. However, it's important to approach this conversation in the right way. Use facts to support your argument. For example, if you know that ten widgets can be processed in a day, then a hundred widgets will take two weeks, provided you have nothing else to do. If your boss then insists that you multitask and still get your hundred widgets done in two weeks, you need to point out - using these facts - that what your boss is proposing is likely not realistic.

2 Bosses like to have their problems solved

In other words, don't bring them problems - bring them solutions. So coming back to our hundred widgets problem again, you would offer alternatives. For instance:

  • 'I can do the hundred in two weeks provided I have nothing else to do'
  • Or - even better - 'I can do the hundred in two weeks provided I have nothing else to do. So could Charlie take my other stuff? I checked with him and he is happy to take it on'.
  • Or - 'I can do the hundred widgets and get this other stuff done but then that's going to take four weeks

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Fergus O'Connell

Fergus O'Connell is a leading authority on project management. He runs influential company ETP and invented project management method Structured Project Management. He is the author of Stuff I Wish I'd Known When I Started Working, recently published by Capstone.
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