Susan Quilliam Counsellor , WC1X

When love relationships are unfulfilling, the whole of life can be unfulfilling. I understand that.

I am a relationship coach and my aim is to support my clients to have the best relationship they can possibly have. I offer specialist coaching for individuals and couples to find, build and enhance their intimate relationships; to overcome relationship crisis; to rekindle fading love; or where necessary to bring relationships to a healthy end.

What does coaching involve? My approach is very down-to-earth. We explore your worries and concerns at a deep level, but also work actively and practically to help you see things in new and more useful ways, and to increase your relationship skills. I follow up every session with full notes of what we've discussed, and usually set homework for you to do between sessions.

What have my clients said? "Susan created a caring and trusting space where I could identify the past choices that stopped me getting what I want. By my fifth session I had begun a new relationship with a partner who has the same goals." “Susan helped me understand and get past my barriers to intimacy; my partner and I have discovered a new and wonderful side of our relationship.”

If you feel I might be able to help, email me and we can arrange either for a free initial 30-minute phone call or a first session where we can discuss the challenges you're meeting and see if we'd like to work together.

Training and qualifications

My original training at the University of Liverpool was in psychology, and through the 1970s I worked teaching and lecturing to students about life skills.

In the 1980?s, I became interested in personal development, first to resolve my own relationship issues then to support others. I trained in a self-help method called co-counselling and went on to teach co-counselling and teach teachers of co-counselling. I built on this work with other courses, and by training, coaching and mentoring. Since then I have also studied neuro-linguistic programming, gaining both a Diploma and Masters (ie Advanced) level qualifications. I soon became especially interested in relationship issues and have worked in that field for the past 34 years. 

Currently, as well as face-to-face coaching, I give email guidance to clients of the Sexual Advice Association and of Women’s Health Concern. I teach courses on love and sexuality as a Faculty member of the global organisation The School of Life. I have written 21 books on relationships including for Relate, and in 2008 was privileged to be invited to update the classic book The Joy of Sex. I also comment regularly on relationship issues for the print and broadcast media.

I am actively involved with several national organisations supporting intimacy issues. I am on the Editorial Board of the Journal of Family Planning and Reproductive Health Care; serve on the Advisory Boards of Women’s Health Concern and the Sexual Advice Association; have been honoured as one of the Family Planning Association’s 21st Century Achievers; am Patron of the Outsiders Charity campaigning for sexual equality for the disabled.

I am an Associate Member of the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists, the Royal Society of Medicine and the British Society for Sexual Medicine, by whose codes of ethics I abide.


If you feel I could help you, we can begin with a free 15-minute initial phone call or a paid initial two-hour session to see whether we would like to work together. If there isn't a 'fit' I am happy to support you to find alternative help.  

Rather than working to one 'counselling hour' (that is, 50 minutes), I work in longer sessions of 1 hour and 45 minutes because I find the work goes more quickly and effectively that way. I charge £135 (London) and £110 (Cambridge) for each session, (very) extensive notes and homework. 

I am delighted when, as sometimes happens, your issue can be resolved in a single session, but most work will take several sessions to resolve - however we are talking months rather than years! Many of my clients then return if they hit different life challenges, or attend every few months for ongoing guidance. My door is always open. 

Types of therapy:
Person-centred/humanistic Cognitive behaviour therapy Couples therapy Issues often worked with:
Interpersonal relationships

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