I foster flourishing. I can support you in building a positive relationship with yourself; navigating loss, change, and big decisions; and identifying your core personal values to live authentically and meaningfully. Contact me today ([email protected]) to book a free Zoom call to discuss starting work together.

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I can support you to:

Build a positive relationship with yourself

Do you feel, or have you been told, that you’re somehow unacceptable or not living as you “should”? Are you a “people-pleaser” who fears others’ negative judgement? Perhaps others have criticised or doubted you. Perhaps this leaves you feeling guilty or ashamed, or suppressing parts of yourself.

We can work together to root out critical thoughts and feelings that don’t serve you. We can empower you to identify, express, and assert boundaries around your own thoughts, feelings, needs, and preferences. We can foster an internal sense of your fundamental worth, enabling you to treat yourself with compassion and respect. You can then constructively challenge yourself to try new ways of being.

Process and navigate loss, change, and big decisions

Have you experienced, or are you anticipating, a significant loss, change, or decision? Perhaps someone in your life has died or you’re contemplating the meaning of life in relation to death. Perhaps you’ve experienced or are considering a change in your relationship status or career. Perhaps you’re worried or wondering about the next stage of your life, or at a crossroads and torn between different courses of action.

You can speak freely and openly about your experience with me. We’ll take time to honour its significance. We can work together to understand how it’s impacting you and what it means for your sense of self. We can disentangle you from other people’s opinions and expectations, and from any wider social narratives, that don’t serve you. We can enable you to identify what it would mean for you to live your life well in relation to this experience.

Identify your core personal values to live authentically and meaningfully

Are you questioning who you are, what matters to you, or the meaning of your life? Perhaps you’re feeling stuck in a rut, unfulfilled personally or professionally. Perhaps you’re struggling with living or working in a way that’s at odds with some of your principles, even if it enables you to meet your practical needs.

We can work together to enable you to identify your core personal values and filter out any inherited values that don’t serve you. We can then use your personal values to understand your experience of meaninglessness, dissatisfaction, or conflict, and guide your decisions and actions. This will foster flourishing in all areas of your life, enabling you to live as authentically and meaningfully as possible.

How will we work together?

We’ll work collaboratively, using the topic you raise at the start of each session as a jumping-off point for an exploratory discussion. We’ll be open and curious. We’ll follow and examine the thoughts, feelings and memories you experience, and the links and patterns we identify between them, as we go along, rather than sticking to a predetermined structure. This approach will enable us to develop a deep understanding of the roots of your experience and any unhelpful ways your past echoes in your present and limits your future. Equipped with this understanding, we’ll identify positive changes for you to make in all areas of your life. Our ultimate aim will be to effect lifelong change by enabling you to act as your own therapist – to be able to apply the knowledge and skills gained in our work together to maintain your own psychological wellbeing after our work ends.

Are you the right therapist for me?

The right therapist for you should feel safe and, I believe, also constructively challenging. They should support you to deepen and extend your self-knowledge and enable you to make positive changes in your life. To ensure you feel safe, I’ll meet you with warmth, empathy, and the utmost respect. I’ll check in with you about how you’re finding our work, and I’ll welcome your feedback. To ensure you feel constructively challenged, I’ll actively raise thoughts, questions, interpretations and different perspectives about the topics you bring. I’m not a “blank slate” sort of therapist: I naturally “talk with my face and hands” and I’ll use imagery, metaphor and humour (as appropriate) to express myself clearly and enable us to develop new ways of understanding your experiences.

It's the quality of the therapeutic relationship that has the biggest impact on therapeutic change. If you think I may be the right therapist for you, please contact me using the link at the top of this page or at [email protected] with any questions or to book a free Zoom call. This’ll give you more of a sense of what it’d be like for us to work together.

How long will we work together?

You can choose to work with me for however long feels helpful for you. Most often, people work with me for between three months and up to a year or more. Therapy’s an investment in yourself and an act of self-care, so please give yourself as much time as you need. I believe there’s no shortcut to achieving lasting therapeutic change; let’s get to the heart and roots of the issues troubling you and holding you back, not just skim the surface.

What’s my next step?

Contact me using the link at the top of this page or at [email protected]  to book a free Zoom call, lasting up to 50 minutes. I’ll answer any questions you have about working together, and we’ll decide whether to book a first therapy session. I look forward to hearing from you!