Perhaps you are trying to move forward with your life, but feel as if one foot keeps hitting the brakes. Mary Morrison claimed, "In order to be free, we must learn how to let go." Many of us already have an idea of what we would like to let go of, and have tried to do so many times: opinons of ourselves, unhelpful yet entrenched patterns of behaviour, a grudge against someone, a state of confusion, persistent low mood, fear of failure, humiliation, rejection, of not being loved for who we really are… Or perhaps it feels as though another person, our job, or our community is holding us back, doing us harm, keeping us stuck.
We cope however we can, sometimes at great cost. To continue to function, drugs, alcohol, food, self harm, sex, social media, a depressive state or abusive behaviour can be used to numb the distress or stand in for what feels missing. But this often leads to feelings of guilt, shame, anger or blame – whether of oneself or others. Even if we are managing relatively well, it can still feel like being trapped in a loop of unsatisfactory or harmful relationships, or like reaching a dead-end, with confusion about finding a meaningful path ahead.
Releasing the brake peddle when learning to drive is easier knowing the instructor is beside you, keeping you safe. It permits letting go. Likewise, a therapist should make you feel at ease enough to speak freely and honestly, even if you are not sure what you want to say. This creates a space for what might need to emerge, what has perhaps been clamouring for the right kind of attention. Unexpressed, unheard needs in ourselves and others are often the root cause of what feels so problematic. Identifying and exploring them can be life-changing. Lightening the burden even slightly can make a huge difference and get you back on track.
Grounded in experience working with all of the issues above, I am interested in helping you understand your current situation with warmth and compassion, and using our joint reflection help you find a way forward to change and grow instead of repeating painful patterns. Having your personal story and unique set of feelings and circumstances addressed in a non-hierarchical, collaborative and confidential setting can lead to a very different, freeing perspective. To achieve this I offer ongoing as well as time-limited psychodynamic/integrative therapy to adults of all ages and identities.
In addition to private practice I am an Honorary Psychotherapist at South London and Maudsley NHS Foundation Trust, and worked previously in an NHS drugs and alcohol service. A parallel longstanding role in the creative arts has given me direct insight into the challenges of living authentically in a volatile world that can feel ruled by appearance and image.
I have some limited (off peak, daytime) availability and am working with a hybrid model of remote mixed with in-person sessions in Brick Lane E1. The sessions are weekly, with in-person meetings roughly once per month.