I am an experienced individual and couple psychodynamic psychotherapist, currently offering sessions on Zoom or over the phone. Many people feel uncertain about starting sessions on Zoom, however generally the individuals and couples who have moved to or started remote sessions during the pandemic have been surprised at how quickly they feel comfortable with meeting in this way.  Some even feel freer to speak about particular issues when they are not meeting in person.  I offer a free initial chat on the phone to discuss the issues you bring and whether they will be suitable for working remotely.  

COUPLE PSYCHOTHERAPY/COUNSELLING

You may be seeking help because you and your partner are feeling disillusioned, angry or unhappy in some way with your relationship.  There may frequent rows, a loss of sexual desire, or a general feeling of having lost touch with one another.  There may have been a precipitating event, such as an affair, which has brought difficulties into the open, and which may have come as a shock to one of you, or the source of your unhappiness may feel harder to pin down. You are likely to each be feeling misunderstood by the other and to find it hard to see your partner's point of view.   

Discussing your difficulties in therapy can help each partner to begin to hear the other again and this often leads couples to reconnect and to rediscover the joy in their relationship.  Therapy can help you to reassess your relationship and what you want from it.  The psychodynamic approach is non-judgmental and I will aim to help you better understand how your own individual histories and the history of your relationship has brought you to this point.  In this process you may uncover thoughts and feelings about the other and about the relationship that you were unaware of, giving you a new perspective.  

Some of the reasons that couples come to therapy:

- Bereavement or financial loss.

- Loss of desire or other sexual difficulties.

- One or both partners having an affair.  

- Issues around having a family.  Including miscarriage, infertility, or where one partner feels shut out by the other after children are born.

- Dealing with separateness and difference. 

- Illness and/or depression of one partner.

- Co-parenting

- Separation and divorce. 

- Issues around children leaving home or around retirement. 

- Wanting to improve a particular area of the relationship. 

INDIVIDUAL PSYCHOTHERAPY/COUNSELLING

I have wide-ranging experience of working with adults of all ages from diverse backgrounds and cultures.  I aim to build a trusting relationship in which the difficulties you bring can be explored in a non-judgmental setting.  Together we will look at your current issues in the light of your past experiences and relationships, so that connections begin to be made.  A greater understanding of some of your unconscious thoughts and feelings can help you to feel less stuck and will increase your compassion for yourself and for others in your life.  

Some of the issues that people bring to individual therapy include:

- Anxiety and/or depression.

- Relationship issues, issues around sex. 

- Childhood or more recent trauma.

- Lack of confidence. 

- Loneliness.

- Bereavement.

- Dealing with illness, either your own or of someone close to you.

- Feeling generally dissatisfied or stuck. 

WORKING REMOTELY DURING THE PANDEMIC

Currently, as a result of the pandemic, I am working with both couples and individuals remotely, either on Zoom or over the phone.

In most cases I will expect to go back to meeting for sessions in person when the situation allows. However some may choose to continue their therapy remotely, especially where it is geographically difficult for them to come to one of my consulting rooms.