Nicola Foster
Couples therapistAbout Me
Hello, I'm Nicola Foster and I offer couples counselling and relationship therapy. I specialise in intimacy and I'm a trained Psychosexual Therapist. Is sex an issue in your relationship? Professional, independent support can help you repair, heal and restore your bond.
DO ANY OF THESE SOUND FAMILIAR?
Fear of intimacy
Mismatch in desire for sex / desire discrepancy
Navigating consensual non-monogamy (CNM)
Avoiding confrontation of any kind
Seeking affection or soothing outside of the relationship
Eroding trust / affairs / betrayal
As your counsellor, I will help you both to understand the unique dynamics in your relationship.
I'll ask you both to share your wants and needs as individuals, and to hear each others' requests.
I will support you to make new agreements about the areas where your needs are different.
We'll collaborate to look at the relationship dynamics and underlying issues, to help you both come to a new understanding of the patterns that keep you stuck.
Then we work together to address relationship challenges through effort and good humour. Session by session, we look at strategies to improve communication and understanding, to learn conflict resolution skills, and to deepen intimacy.
It's really important to me to be kind and genuine, and to create as safe as possible space for everyone.
My aim is to provide you with positive, actionable strategies that give your relationship the best chance to not only survive, but thrive.
I also support individuals:
Areas I can help with:
- Recovering from a break up
- Confidence and self esteem
- Finding relationship
- Erectile difficulties
- Consensual Non Monogamy Issues
- Fear of sex
- Vaginismus / pain during sex
- Orgasm difficulties
- Sex after trauma
- Sexual identity
- Out of control sexual behaviour / pornography compulsive behaviour
- Shame
I'm very happy to schedule a 15 minute online Skype/Zoom call to answer your questions, so that you can see me and establish whether relationship coaching is right for you. Book a consultation here: https://bnbxtapdxesunnxkat.10to8.com
Issues often worked with
Therapy offered
Client groups
Fees
COUPLES: £90 Daytime / £95 Evening (after 6pm)
INDIVIDUALS: £90
Clinic Days Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday - Only Online
Also available:
£895 2 day Intensive £445 1 day Intensive - In Person in Somerset or online - see http://www.realrelating.com/intensives
Real Intimacy - 12 week online program for couples - self study with support - see http://www.realrelating.com/realintimacy
Training and qualifications
- London Diploma of Relationship and Psychosexual Therapy / 2017
Additional Credentials
- Certificate: Diane Poole Heller / DARE 1 (2021) / DARE 2 (2022)
- Certificate: EFT / Externship / 2021
My coaching and counselling training began in 2008 at the University of London, Birkbeck and continued with the London Diploma in Relationship and Psychosexual Therapy from 2014 -2016 (LDPRT).
I completed a 2 year placement working with NHS clients at the Local Counselling Centre in Letchworth (2015-2017).
I completed the Externship Training in the Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) modality (Dr. Sue Johnson) in January 2021.
I am also a School of Being teacher having studied and trained with and assisted acclaimed relationship and intimacy teacher Jan Day since 2010.
I have completed Teaching The Wheel In Groups with The School of Consent (Dr Betty Martin) and I'm currently studying as a facilitator of the Wheel of Consent.
I'm inspired by other brilliant relationship teachers including Esther Perel, John Welwood, John Gottman, Harville Hendrix and the late David Schnarch.
I'm a workshop facilitator in the therapy practice of Family Constellations, having completed a 2 year programme with the Centre for Systemic Constellations (2013-2015).
I continue to practice Mindfulness and Conscious Movement.
I'm passionate about learning. I devour new literature and I continually invest in ongoing professional training and personal development.