Julie Murray
Relationship, and Life CoachingAbout me
A very warm welcome! I am a Divorce and Break-Up Coach alongside being a highly experienced psychodynamic relationship therapist. I believe that the quality of our relationships have a huge effect on how we feel about ourselves and who we are in the world. Although the majority of my work is in helping couples and individuals gain a better understanding of their difficult relationships so that they can be strengthened, I am fully aware that relationships come to an end. No matter how or why it ends, the end of a long relationship is always painful and difficult.
Accepting the end of long relationship is a traumatic process that throws up a huge range of confusing and difficult emotions. It can feel daunting and overwhelming. Going through a separation from a loved one is a huge loss and is as traumatic as a bereavement. As the shock of the break-up begins to wear off and the pain sets in, there is no right or wrong way to get through those first few difficult weeks.
Recovering from a relationship breakdown whilst going through a divorce, especially one not of your choosing - is immensely difficult and painful.
You don’t have to do this alone.
As a divorce and break up coach. I provide individual support to help you navigate the emotional roller coaster of divorce and separation with confidence and strength. Divorce coaching is so effective because it is tailor-made to suit your individual needs and supports both the emotional and legal process of your divorce. I will help you identify and work through the difficult emotions, so that you can treat the legal divorce as a job. This should ultimately make the process less stressful, less expensive and essentially less painful for all involved.
Here are the different ways that my services can help you in the early stages of your separation or divorce.:
1. Firstly, I listen. I provide a safe, non-judgmental and confidential environment for you to talk about your situation. Talking to me openly can help clarify your thoughts and feelings about your situation, helping you towards feeling calmer. The emotional support I provide will help you to feel understood and prioritised. By combining my therapy experience with my coaching skills, I can effectively help you through the very stressful time of your break-up. With so many financial, legal and childcare issues to work through and difficult decisions to make, it is important to have the right support and advice.
2. Answering those important questions that you may have about your situation. Family breakdown is an extremely emotional time and big decisions need to be made that impact you and your family. We can go through all of these questions together and ensure that you receive the right information that you need. I have knowledge and personal experience of the legal process and can help you to get clarity on how to work best with your lawyer and other professionals. As a divorce and break up coach, I do not give legal or financial advice, but I will help you to build the best team around you to support you through the process. Obtaining the right information about your options will help clarify things for you, which should assist with important decision-making. I will guide you to make the decisions that are the best for you, and in your own time.
3. Helping you to work out a plan for your next steps. I want to help you look ahead to your future, so that you can think about this event as being an opportunity to move forward to a more fulfilling life. Through the work we do, I can help you to stay focused on what you feel is important and what you want the outcome of your situation to be. This could involve practical tips to help improve your situation, as well as suggestions for managing stress and tools to deal with difficult emotions. We can work on simple action plans to help you take things slowly and carefully. My goal is to give you the clarity, confidence and strength to navigate this confusing process in a dignified way.
More information about me and how I work can be found on my website: www.juliemurray.co.uk
Types of coaching offered
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Coaching offered
Fees
A coaching session typically lasts for 90 minutes. Please contact me to arrange a free 20-30 minute phone conversation so that we can chat about your situation and discuss how I can support you through it.
Training and qualifications
I did my psychotherapy at 2 highly regarded therapy institutions in London; WPF Therapy and Tavistock Relationships. I was awarded a Post Graduate Diploma in Psychodynamic Couple and Individual Counselling and Psychotherapy from the University of East London and have been seeing clients at Tavistock Relationships since 2013, where I am still based as a visiting clinician in the Regular Counselling service, in the divorce and Separation Service and in the Mentalisation Based Therapy for Couples Service. I am an accredited member of the BACP. As much of my work involves helping couples and individuals to separate and divorce in a more considered way, I took the decision to train as a Divorce and Break-Up Coach with the highly acclaimed coach, Sara Davison. In all aspects of my work, be it at TR or as a private practicioner, I am committed to regular training, constant learning, weekly group supervision and monthly individual supervision.
Whilst coaching is different to therapy, they compliment each other very effectively. My knowledge and experience of relationship dynamics will help you to make sense of your past relationship and your part to play in it. It takes two to make a couple and it takes two to break a couple – I believe that both have their part to play in the break-up. Reflecting and taking responsibility for one’s own role in what went wrong, will help you understand yourself better and move on to a more satisfying life.
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