Jo MercerPsychodynamic psychotherapist
Currently, I am only working online via Zoom.
I specialise in working with women and men who are struggling with troubled relationships.
Have you been reading up about narcissism and NPD, co-dependency, CPTSD, or emotional and psychological abuse? These are my areas of expertise.
If you are in a relationship that is damaging to your self-esteem, where you feel trapped and unable to be yourself, then it is likely that you will be feeling very confused. You will have many unanswered questions, and I suspect it will feel excruciating trying to square the behaviour you are experiencing with the partner you love.
In the early stages of awareness that there is something amiss in your relationship, it is common to be in denial. It often just feels too painful to think that the person you love wishes to hurt or undermine you, or is casually indifferent to your pain and distress. Sometimes this feeling of confusion and disbelief can last for years, as you try your hardest to make things better.
Perhaps you have had the experience of trying to bring your anxieties to friends or family only to find they seek to reassure you or minimise your concerns. This casts doubt on your own felt experience, further undermining your confidence. Perhaps you are starting to feel invisible. It is very isolating to feel that no-one believes you.
At this point, it not unusual for a corrosive doubt to creep in; you might be worrying that you are imagining things or that there might be something wrong with you.
If your partner reinforces this self-doubt or is gaslighting you, you may well begin to doubt your own mind.
If you are here, then you are looking for help. I have much experience in this field, and I am here to help you.
I provide a safe, confidential, and non-judgmental space where you can explore your experience with me. I work collaboratively with you to make sense of what feels impossible to untangle.
I have helped many people to bring about profound internal change.
My own experience of being helped by therapy inspired me to train as a psychotherapist. Now let me help you.
OnlineI also provide my services online.
Issues often worked with
Training and qualifications
PG Dip Psychodynamic Theory and Practice