Articles by Sandra Hilton

12Sep

The Necessity of Surrender and Letting Go of Control

Sandra Hilton

change, identity, self, uncertainty

Therapists

Sometimes the tighter we hold onto control, the stronger the need to surrender. Counsellor Sandra Hilton explores why this matters when it comes to times of change and self-development.
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18Jul

Loss and Hope As I Move On From Motherhood As I Know It

Sandra Hilton

middleage, midlife, motherhood, mothers, parenting

Therapists

Children leaving home is a seismic shift for most parents. Counsellor Sandra Hilton reflects on her own feelings of grief and loss as she looks ahead to a new chapter of motherhood.
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31Mar

How to Be Patient and Nurture Self-Compassion

Sandra Hilton

patience, selfcompassion, success

Therapists

We live in a fast-paced world and so it being patient doesn't necessarily come naturally. Counsellor Sandra Hilton explores the value of patience and how it can help us find self-compassion.
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14Mar

Is it Time to Stop Holding Yourself Back?

Sandra Hilton

change, identity, self

Therapists

We might wait for the 'perfect time' to change, without stopping to realise the barriers that are holding us back are inside ourselves. Counsellor Sandra Hilton explores what it means to let go and embrace change.
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11Nov

The Naming of Things: How Words Have Power

Sandra Hilton

identity, self, society

Therapists

Counsellor Sandra Hilton reflects on the power of naming things – how words can help us build or minimise intimacy, exert control, and manage difficult feelings.
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07Jul

Managing Loss and Inevitable Transitions

Sandra Hilton

change, identity, middleage, midlife, self

Therapists

Loss, change and transition are inevitable parts of life, as we move into different roles and get older. Therapist Sandra Hilton reflects on the necessity of feeling lost, of grieving properly, in order to grow.
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04May

Changing Your Perspective on Middle Age and the Menopause

Sandra Hilton

identity, menopause, middleage, midlife

Therapists

Midlife can be notoriously challenging for both men and women. Counsellor and coach Sandra Hilton reflects on her own experience and how we can shift our perspective to make the most of middle age.
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30Mar

The Value of Befriending Your Anger

Sandra Hilton

anger, emotions, self, society, women

Therapists

Anger is an often misunderstood emotion – it makes people uncomfortable, and many deny it, which can be harmful. Therapist Sandra Hilton explores her own relationship to anger and the value of making space for it.
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23Feb

Using Your Dreams to Guide You Through the Menopause

Sandra Hilton

body, dreams, health, menopause, women

Therapists

The nature and vividness of women's dreams can change in the perimenopause and menopause. Therapist and coach Sandra Hilton, who supports clients during the menopause, explores what a rich source of guidance these dreams can be.
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15Dec

How to Survive a Covid Christmas with Your Mental Health Intact

Sandra Hilton

Christmas, coronavirus

Therapists

Amid Covid restrictions, Christmas 2020 will for many of us be like no other we've experienced before. Therapist Sandra Hilton encourages time to reflect and the importance of making choices that nourish you.
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13May

Looking Inwards: What Will You Find?

Sandra Hilton

coronavirus, identity, self

Therapists

Therapist Sandra Hilton reflects on how this time of lockdown both provides space for and somewhat forces us to reach inwards and look inside ourselves
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14Jan

The Stories We Tell Ourselves: Do You Dare to Change Yours?

Sandra Hilton

identity, self

Therapists

From cautionary fables to fairytales, to the voice in your head that tells you what you can and can't do: stories are powerful. Therapist Sandra Hilton explores how you can understand and free yourself from limiting beliefs
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02Sep

Getting Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable

Sandra Hilton

emotions, identity, resilience, self

Therapists

Discomfort resilience is a term used to describe the ability to cope with discomfort in the present moment, rather than avoiding it
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01May

Therapy and the Art of Transformation

Sandra Hilton

change, childhood, self, trauma

Therapists

Are old defence mechanisms holding you back? Sandra Hilton explores the art of transformation, and how therapy helps
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04Mar

How to Connect With Other People

Sandra Hilton

childhood, relationships, self

Therapists

Our early relationships shape our adult relationships, as does our capacity to connect with ourselves, writes therapist Sandra Hilton
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18Dec

Finding Joy and Peace in the Christmas Season

Sandra Hilton

Christmas, play, self, wellbeing

Therapists

How often do you allow yourself to just pause, and be in the moment? Therapist Sandra Hilton explores the beauty of joy and mindfulness
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03Dec

Can Painful Feelings Be Helpful?

Sandra Hilton

creativity, identity, relationships, self, wellbeing

Therapists

When we ignore parts of ourselves, we may experience feelings of emptiness. These painful feelings can guide us, says therapist Sandra Hilton
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19Sep

Can We Drive for Success and Be Kind to Ourselves?

Sandra Hilton

career, selfcompassion, selfworth, success, work

Therapists

Often we believe that to be successful means driving yourself into the ground - but perhaps self-compassion will help and not hinder progress. Therapist Sandra Hilton explores
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