Roman Romeo

You may feel anxious in a way that never quite switches off, or flat in a way you cannot explain to anyone. You may keep ending up in the same arguments, the same jobs, the same dynamics with different people, and be able to see the pattern without being able to step out of it. Or it may be simpler and harder to describe than that: things look fine on paper, and you cannot work out why they do not feel that way. Many of the people I work with are the capable ones. The ones who hold things together at work and at home, who other people lean on, and who somewhere along the way stopped being asked how they are. Being the person who copes is its own kind of exhausting. None of it means there is something wrong with you. These patterns made sense once. They were how you learned to cope, usually early, usually because they helped at the time. What was learned can be understood, and once it is understood, you have a choice you did not have before. I am an integrative counsellor and a Registered Member of the BACP, which means I draw on more than one way of working and adapt to what suits you. My practice is rooted in Person-Centred Therapy and Transactional Analysis, and I work at relational depth, paying close attention to the patterns we carry from earlier relationships and how they show up in the present. I am attachment-informed, and I bring a calm, grounded presence to our sessions that comes in part from my own long-standing meditation practice. There is no pressure here to be positive, or to have it worked out. You can bring the parts you would not say out loud anywhere else. Before I trained as a counsellor I spent six years teaching, four of them in a specialist school. Teaching taught me how to explain difficult things clearly, which I still care a great deal about. I would rather you left a session with something that makes sense of you than with a technique you will forget by Thursday. I work with adults on a wide range of difficulties, including anxiety, depression, low self-worth, relationship difficulties, questions of identity and self-acceptance, life transitions, bereavement and loss, and the strain of financial or systemic pressures. I am comfortable exploring questions of meaning, spirituality or faith where these matter to you, without ever imposing my own views. If you are autistic or have ADHD, I adapt how I work rather than expecting you to fit the usual shape of therapy. Not sure if we'd be a good fit? I make videos explaining ideas from therapy, like why we repeat patterns we want to break. They're a good way to get a feel for how I think and talk: https://www.youtube.com/@TherapySchool. You are welcome to book a free 15 minute introductory call, with no pressure and no obligation, simply to talk and see whether this feels right.