Ask a Therapist

I’ve lied to my therapist – should I confess? So, I would recommend always confessing and being honest with your therapist, because this will bring you fully, authentically, into the room.

And with authenticity comes deeper connection, deeper growth, and room for exploration. It will also reveal something about you and why there was a need to lie in that particular situation. And you could say something like, you know, last session I actually lied about something, and what I said was this, but the truth is this, and I was scared to tell you.

Your therapist will not be shocked, and will not judge you, but it will give an opportunity to explore, for instance, if this is a pattern of yours out there in the world that you lie regularly. It will also give an opportunity to explore the fear behind what the truth would have brought, and what the lie was actually protecting.

So, there’s a lot of therapeutic value in being fully honest and authentic with your therapist, and therapy always works best when you’re honest, because it creates a more real relationship. And can actually give you tools to then take a more real version of yourself into the world, if that’s something that you sometimes are afraid of doing. So yes, I always recommend honesty.