Ask a Therapist

Is it bad to ghost your therapist? So this might be something that you’re thinking of doing, or that you’ve done, and it’s probably not helpful to think about it in terms of good or bad, because that’s quite binary. But to get curious about why you might be wanting to ghost your therapist or why you might have ghosted your therapist in the first place, because there’s going to be a reason.

It might be because you want the therapy to end and you don’t like endings, or you find endings difficult, so it’s easier to just sort of switch off and disconnect. Or perhaps there’s been some kind of rupture in the therapy – your therapist has let you down and it feels very difficult to re-engage and figure out how to renegotiate.

So there could be all sorts of reasons, and I think the important thing is to kind of investigate them and get curious about what that pull to the switching off contact is. And of course, you know, therapists care about their clients and will be doing the same thing, will be wondering what’s going on for their client and why that sudden disconnection or breaking in contact and communication will be going on. It’s part of the job that that’s going to happen at some point, with some people. It’s unlikely therapists are going to hold grudges.