What attracted you to become a therapist?
I was inspired to become a therapist after struggling to find a provider who shared my background and truly understood my culture and values. While I’ve always been passionate about helping others, I love that therapy empowers clients to realize they already possess the inner strength and answers they’ve been searching for.
Where did you train as a therapist?
I completed my professional training at Goldsmiths, University of London, where I earned my qualifications while gaining hands on experience through various clinical placements. My background includes a mix of in person and online clinical work, allowing me to build the versatile skills needed to support clients effectively in both traditional and digital settings.
Can you tell us about the type of therapy you practise?
I practice Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), an approach that explores how our thoughts, behaviours, and emotions are interconnected. By identifying unhelpful patterns that keep you stuck, we work together to actively disrupt them and build healthier coping strategies. I chose this modality because it is evidence-based, goal-oriented, and is the specialized field in which I have been extensively trained.
How does CBT help clients dealing with infidelity?
In my practice, I use Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) to address the complex emotions and behaviours surrounding infidelity. Whether you are the partner who stepped outside the marriage or the one impacted by it, CBT helps us identify and break the cycles of secrecy, mistrust, and avoidance that often follow a betrayal.
What sort of people do you usually see?
I work with a diverse range of individuals, typically seeing adults and older teens who are navigating complex emotional landscapes. My practice most commonly supports those working through the aftermath of infidelity, as well as individuals managing social anxiety, health anxiety, and various eating disorders.
Have you noticed any recent mental health trends or wider changes in attitude?
Recently, I’ve observed a powerful shift toward destigmatizing mental health in communities that previously viewed it as taboo. There is a growing, much needed demand for culturally competent care, where people seek therapists who truly get their background and values.
What do you like about being a therapist?
The best part about being a therapist is knowing I directly am helping people. Knowing that once a week I can create a safe space for clients truly makes the job the best part of my day.
What is less pleasant?
The very difficult part is when clients decide to leave therapy, and it doesn’t allow for a proper exit. Some clients leave without notice and I can leave both of us with unanswered questions and unsolved work.
How long have you been with Welldoing and what you think of us?
I have been a new member of Welldoing and have found the platform incredibly supportive for both therapists and clients. I value the easy access to sessions.
What books have been important to you in terms of your professional and personal development? Do you ever recommend books to clients?
The Body Keeps the Score has been a cornerstone of my professional development, deeply informing my understanding of how we carry trauma. While I don't typically give book recommendations to clients, I often suggest movies, shows, or podcasts tailored to their specific interests and the themes we are exploring in our work together.
What you do for your own mental health?
To maintain my own mental health and ensure I provide the best care possible, I attend my own therapy and participate in regular clinical supervision. These practices allow me to process my experiences, stay grounded, and maintain the emotional clarity needed to support my clients effectively.
You are a therapist in London. What can you share with us about seeing clients in this area?
I am a therapist based in London, though I also work with clients online across the UK.
The professional and fast paced nature of West London significantly defines my client base. I often see high achieving professionals and students navigating the pressures of the city, which frequently manifests as perfectionism, disordered eating, and health anxiety. Given the affluent yet culturally diverse landscape of the area, there is a vital demand for culturally competent therapy—clients are looking for a practitioner who understands their heritage and values without them having to over explain their lived experience.
What’s your consultation room like?
My practice is conducted entirely online, allowing you to engage in therapy from a space where you feel most comfortable. I keep my virtual background simple and professional, featuring a lovely astronomy poster that adds a touch of calm and personality to our sessions without being distracting.
What do you wish people knew about therapy?
I wish people knew that therapy is a collaboration, not a "fix." You are the expert on your life; my role is simply to provide the tools and a culturally safe space to help you uncover the answers you already have within.
What did you learn about yourself in therapy?
In my own therapy, I learned that the answers I was searching for were already within me—I just needed a safe, culturally attuned space to uncover them. It taught me the power of being truly seen and how breaking unhelpful patterns allows us to align our lives with our actual values.
Find Nicole at:
- cbtwithnicole.com
- @cbtwithnicole
