Stephan Fowler

I’m a therapist in North London working with adults struggling with self-worth, identity, relationships, and overwhelming emotions. Together, we’ll explore where these difficulties come from and how to live differently with the anxiety, depression, or pain that they cause you. Therapy is not just about fixing problems on the surface, but about understanding the deeper threads that run through our relationships, sense of self, and emotional life. It’s a space where you can be curious about yourself and where lasting change becomes possible. You might be struggling with a persistent sense of not being good enough, holding yourself to punishing standards, or finding it far easier to be kind to others than to yourself. Perhaps you feel unsure of who you are beneath the roles you’ve learned to inhabit: the capable one, the helper, the high-achiever. Or you might notice recurring patterns in relationships, leaving you feeling unheard, frustrated, or depleted. Whatever you’re carrying, whether it has a clear name or not, therapy offers a space to reflect, process, and begin to heal. My approach is grounded in three broad perspectives: Psychodynamic – We’ll explore how your past experiences and relationships inform your present feelings and actions. By understanding these causes and effects, you’ll navigate current challenges with greater consciousness and insight. Attachment-based – many emotional struggles have their roots in the bonds we formed with parents or caregivers. By noticing how these early attachment patterns echo through your relationships today, including in the therapy room, we can begin to reduce their hold and support the development of more secure, fulfilling connections. Relational – by exploring how patterns of relating emerge within the therapy room itself, we can gain insight into your interpersonal dynamics and develop more authentic ways of connecting. Therapy with me is collaborative, thoughtful, and tailored to you. Some clients come with clear issues they want to work through; others come with a sense of unease or stuckness they can’t quite name. However it begins, it’s a space we create together. I work in person, usually weekly, on a short- or longer-term basis. I may be able to offer occasional online sessions when needed.