• As a society we seem somewhat fascinated by narcissism – but what about those who have suffered in narcissistic relationships?

  • Dr Ramani Durvasula offers a deep dive into the impact of narcissistic abuse and how to recover


Clinical psychologist Dr Ramani Durvasula has dedicated much of career to understanding the impact of abuse in narcissistic relationships. She wrote her book It's Not You "because most of what was written about narcissism was about narcissism, not about the people who are impacted by it – and that's really the conversation."


Dr Ramani Durvasula is the author of It's Not You

Alice McGurran is editor at Welldoing; she also works as a gestalt therapist in London


Further reading

Echoism to healthy wholeness: Recovery after narcissistic abuse

You're not a narcissist, but you may have a narcissistic wound

How to keep from turning into your parents

Is there a relationship between narcissism and body dysmorphic disorder?