Sumeet Grover

The experience of coming for therapy is an opportunity for you to discover for the first or subsequent time in life that you can let go of all the judgements, the fear and hesitation, and begin to talk about what is bothering you. We become wounded within a sense of connectedness - in families, relationships, friendships and society - and paradoxically it is within a sense of connectedness that we can begin to heal. Psychotherapy with me offers an experience of relatedness, which unfolds in a way that it facilitates a fundamental change in the personality, including how you experience, respond to- or make meaning of life. I work with individuals, couples, and adult family members, offering a space that is confidential, attuned, and respectful. I also provide online group supervision for counsellors, psychotherapists, and trainees. INDIVIDUAL PSYCHOTHERAPY What often brings clients to individual psychotherapy is a sense of conflict within their relationships or within themselves or unresolved trauma, along with the desire for the suffering either to be resolved or to be made meaning of. The goal of therapy is to become more conscious of all that happens within an individual and within their relationships, so that from this new sense of becoming awakened, a person can make choices to change the course of their lives. More often than not, there are no ready-made answers to the specific suffering of someone's life, but the effort lies in being open to discovering the answer that would naturally arise from you, out of your own inherent wisdom that you perhaps are not yet able to see. From experience, the more sincere the effort you put into this process with openness, the more you get something in return, but it all happens at a steady pace that doesn't overwhelm you. Psychotherapy can feel like an unfamiliar setting because the therapeutic conversation is not like any social conversation; but this is precisely why psychotherapy works - because we get to look at the mind in ways that are driven by curiosity, compassion and wisdom rather than habitual approaches. COUPLES COUNSELLING People often come to relationship therapy when there is a lot that they have tried amongst themselves, and nothing seems to work to make two people understand each other. The type of psychotherapy I offer aims to facilitate a space for you so that you can get a deeper understanding of what happens within the unspoken space between both of you, and how your individual life histories — more often than not — continue to play a role in influencing how you relate to each other. My focus in relationship psychotherapy is twofold: to understand how your past shapes your present, and to understand what is happening between both of you in the here and now. Lastly, relationship therapy invites two individuals to open up the vulnerable parts of themselves to their partner in the guiding presence of a psychotherapist, in order to relate to the other person from a different place than a habitual one. SPECIALISMS I welcome all clients seeking support for their mental health. My specialisms include: - Anxiety and social anxiety - Trauma, PTSD, and complex PTSD - Low self-esteem and identity issues - Relationship difficulties, including family conflict - Work-related stress and professional pressures - Sexuality and LGBT+ concerns I offer a warm and affirming space for gay men and LGBT clients, and I welcome the use of arts and creativity, including sandplay therapy for trauma survivors. I also work with actors, public figures, executives, and professionals — offering a discreet and culturally attuned space to explore the unique challenges that come with visibility, responsibility, and high-pressure roles. FIRST SESSION & SUBSEQUENT APPOINTMENTS Couples Psychotherapy: All sessions last for 60 minutes. Before our first appointment, I will send both of you a detailed relationship therapy questionnaire to fill in, which will give me a deeper understanding of what has brought you to therapy. Individual Psychotherapy: Initial Assessment Session lasts for 55 minutes, and is a structured appointment with a set of questions that I go through with you in order to understand you and your life history at a deeper level. All subsequent sessions last for exactly 50 minutes. PSYCHIATRIC CONDITIONS NOT COVERED At present I do not offer psychotherapy for new clients with a diagnosis of, or signs of, personality disorders at my private practice. MORE ABOUT ME Prior to training as a psychotherapist, I have had a wide exposure in life: I studied a master’s degree in engineering, worked in financial services for a decade, authored three books of poetry, wrote art and book reviews, been a member of a few international arts and conflict transformation NGOs, and read Buddhist philosophy for fifteen years. I speak English, Hindi and Dutch, and have a keen interest in Dutch art and culture, and in European arthouse films.