What's Wrong With Being a Perfectionist?
Aug 7, 2019
Ruth Parchment
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- To a point, perfectionism can help us focus and do a job well; but, perfectionism can also stop us from trying in the first place
- A fear of failure, high levels of self-criticism, procrastination and anxiety are common in perfectionists
- If perfectionism is holding you back, find a therapist here
The word 'perfectionism' is used a lot. Whilst "you are such a perfectionist" is uttered in exasperation, "I'm such a perfectionist!" may be confessed with pride, humour, or self-depreciation. For some, perfectionism fuels inspiration and is a driving force that can spur excellence: Beyoncé and Adele are self-proclaimed perfectionists who have revealed their perfectionism as the driving force propelling some of their most notable performances.
Within a certain range, the visionary nature of perfectionism does bolster achievement. For others however, perfectionism is destructive; completely eroding their internal world, sense of self and how they navigate life. This type of perfectionism is limited and associated with high levels of psychological distress. It has the propensity to adversely affect one or many aspects of life, such as relationships, hobbies, leisure, social situations, study and appearance. Knowing the limiting consequences of perfectionism can help you work out if you are veering towards an unhelpful type of perfectionism.
The limiting type of perfectionism:
- Embodies an 'all-or-nothing' way of thinking:
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