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Reality Testing: Learning to Think Before You React

Aug 30, 2017

Joshua Miles

Joshua Miles

Aug 30, 2017

    Reality testing is a concept initially devised by Sigmund Freud which is used by some therapists to assist clients in distinguishing their internal thoughts, feelings and ideas from the events, which are based within reality. In other words, it is the ability to see a situation for what it really is, rather than what one hopes or fears it might be. However the need for reality testing extends beyond a therapeutic setting and the need to appropriately distinguish our inner world from reality is something, which occurs in everyday life. Below are some examples of this.

    Example

    "I just said good morning to Jane in the hall this morningbut she didn_'t answer._ She must be mad at me for something I have done_."_

    Reality

    There may be many other explanations for this. She didn't see you, she was deep in thought or she is grumpy today and has a lot on her mind.

    Example

    "I just failed my first exam of the yearThis must mean that I am now bound to fail the rest of my exams as well_."_

    Reality

    Failing at something initially, does not equate to a pattern of failure, and does not mean that things cannot improve or change in the future.

    Why is reality testing important**?**

    We all have thoughts and ideas, which can at points feel dominating, controlling or overwhelming and it can be easy for us to imagine the worst-case scenario. During times when we experience feelings and worries at a heightened level, we can begin to think negatively. Here are some reasons that reality testing is important in our everyday lives:

    • It allows us to distinguish between what is real and what isn't
    • It allows us to judge situations appropriately
    • It allows us to notice our own feelings and what they mean
    • It gives us a basis of comparison
    • It allows us to improve how we react to situations

How to reality test

The ability to reality test in everyday situations can be learnt, and it is entirely possible to gain a new way of understanding our thought processes.

1 Be objective

See a situation from as many angles as possible

Take time to make a judgement about a situation, avoid rushing in with immediate thoughts

Remember that other people have their own thoughts and feelings regarding situations, and it is entirely possible you have misread the situation

Think and then react

Consider how you emotionally react to a situation

Are you reacting too greatly or not enough?

Think about how much emotion or feeling each situation truly requires.

Notice themes and patterns in your life, and work toward adjusting how you react

2 Seek external perspectives

If a situation occurs, and you are unsure which feeling to attribute to it - ask a friend for their perspective

Take a moment to consider the possible outcomes or meanings before coming to a conclusion

Remember, that you do not need to react right away, and that sometimes silence or time to reflect can be beneficial

What can happen if we don**'t reality test?**

If we do not give ourselves time to fact check our thoughts we allow the negative and damaging thoughts to seep in, and do not give ourselves the chance to check whether or not they are true, have validity or more importantly, whether they actually matter. Here are some common difficulties which can arise through not reality testing:

  • Increased belief in negative thought about ourselves
  • Becoming overwhelmed by thoughts
  • Convincing ourselves we may be to blame for another person's actions
  • Getting caught up in the dynamics of another person's thoughts
  • We may decide to act differently due to how we perceive other people's reactions to us

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Joshua Miles

Joshua Miles is a psychotherapist in North London

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