What is attachment disorder?
Attachment disorder is a broad term used to describe the developmental, behavioural and emotional challenges that arise in children who do not form expected bonds with their parent or primary caregiver.
In children, attachment disorder is usually diagnosed before the age of five but sometimes at school-age.
Attachment disorder can result when the necessary environment to create a secure and healthy attachment is not present. This can be due to abuse, neglect, abandonment or a stressful home environment. Children inherently look to those close to them for love and security; when these needs aren't met, the world can feel like an unsafe place.
Symptoms of attachment disorder in children
- the child is inconsolable when they cry and they cry repeatedly
- lack of eye contact
- difficulty expressing anger
- seeking comfort from strangers
- difficulty monitoring or rectifying their own behaviour
- showing a lack of affection towards caregivers
- being hesitant in social situations
- an aversion to physical touch and affection
Types of attachment disorder in children
1. Reactive attachment disorder (RAD)
Children with reactive attachment disorder struggle to self-soothe when they are stressed. They do not look to their caregivers for comfort and may generally be withdrawn in social situations.
2. Disinhibited social engagement disorder (DSED)
Children with disinhibited social engagement disorder may be overly friendly with strangers, allowing them to pick them up and offer them toys. They may walk up to strangers of their own accord and not check in with their caregivers.
These conditions can usually be diagnosed very early, often by the child's first birthday. In children who are showing signs of attachment disorder, play therapy and/or family therapy may be used to help them. Without treatment, the impact of attachment disorder can be seen in adulthood.
What is attachment theory?
A healthy attachment to our primary caregiver in childhood is thought to set a good foundation for all our future relationships. A secure, healthy attachment to our caregiver in childhood is formed if we learn that we can trust our caregiver to respond to our needs and keep us safe. It provides a safe base, from which a child can confidently explore the world, knowing that should anything go wrong, their caregiver will be there as a source of support and comfort.
Attachment theory was developed by John Bowlby. The different attachment styles are: secure, avoidant, anxious, and disorganised. These styles are not disorders in themselves, but are often spoken about in relation to attachment disorders.
1. Secure attachment
- likely to have had a strong bond with their caregiver
- is comfortable in their relationships
- feels little anxiety in relationships
- may have had a caregiver who was inconsistently available to them
- do not feel secure in their relationships
- crave intimacy and closeness
- tendency to experience jealousy and/or idealise romantic partners
- require frequent reassurance
3. Avoidant or dismissive-avoidant
- caregiver may have not been attuned to their needs
- uncomfortable with closeness
- value on independence
- struggle to be dependent on others
- may have been subject to abuse or trauma
- chaotic relationship patterns, for example seeking closeness and then pushing away
The good news is, you can work on and develop your attachment style. If you recognised yourself in any of the insecure attachment styles above, psychotherapy can help you increase your self-awareness, learn about your triggers, find self-compassion, and build a healthier attachment style and sense of self.
Last updated 29 March 2022