You've probably found your way here because you're anxious about what's ahead, feel stuck on aspects of the past and don’t feel great in yourself. You're not treating yourself very well and your inner monologue is a lot of shoulds and criticisms. That's exhausting! And you want to feel so much more grounded, clear, fulfilled, tuned into your work and relationships.
I’d love to help. I specialise in working with people of all genders struggling with anxiety, low self worth, relationship issues and the effects of narcissistic abuse.
Most of us have a difficult relationship with our self esteem; this is the basis of my work. Self esteem is about our belief in our competence (to learn, to cope, to adapt) as well as feeling worthy of happiness. So many of us struggle with one or both aspects, we experience shame, guilt and paralysing fear. Low self worth shows up as anxiety and depression in many shapes and forms; it also often leads to issues in our relationships.
I believe that most, if not all, of us have experienced some degree of trauma, particularly relational trauma, which often leads to insecure attachment in our relationships as adults. We develop and maintain certain habits, defaults and narratives in our lives that don’t serve us anymore and can get really locked in.
I don’t love labels, but think they can be useful for getting an initial handle on what’s going on inside us. Maybe you’ve already recognised signs within yourself of what’s called codependency, or relationship/love addiction, anxious attachment or strong tendencies towards people-pleasing, poor boundaries, squashing your own needs and abandoning yourself.
Perhaps you’re struggling with the aftershock of a destructive relationship. I have lots of experience working with survivors of many kinds of abuse, particularly narcissistic. It may be/have been at the hands of a parent, sibling, boss or romantic partner and is so often devastating, needing patience and sensitivity to untangle the chaos as well as learn the skills to regulate a chronically dysregulated nervous system. And I firmly believe that trauma is not what happens to us, it’s what happens inside us that leads us to feel terrified and alone in our pain.
Maybe you can identify with the term Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) or Sensory Processing Sensitivity - you have a finely tuned and easily overstimulated nervous system, high empathy and depth of information processing, very observant, affected by people’s moods, greater awareness of environmental subtleties, imaginative, creative and experience more intense feelings than others. You’re not alone!
I also offer relationship therapy, often called couples counselling, for those who want to work with their partners. I am sex positive, queer allied, kink allied, social justice informed and anti-oppressive. I work with gender, sexuality and relationship diversity (GSRD affirmative) which includes polyamory and other forms of non-monogamy. Intersectional feminism informs my practice.
I also offer psychedelic preparation and integration sessions (please note I do not offer guided or assisted psychedelic work). I run women’s circles (for anyone who identifies as a woman), social justice groups, narcissistic abuse support groups and accountability groups, feel free to email me if you’d like more info!
I've worked with thousands of individuals, couples and groups in the past decade. I have a Master's Degree in Integrative therapy, meaning that I've trained in different types of therapy/counselling so that I can adapt creatively to you as an individual. I have also trained in mindfulness, NLP, Emotionally Focused Therapy, sound therapy and coaching, so that I can offer a blend of coaching therapy.
Contact me on 07591 575260 or [email protected] for a free 10-15 minute consultation to see if you feel the right click and find out how I can help you.
How do I work?
I am attachment-focused, trauma-informed, work relationally and in an embodied way. This doesn’t need to mean much to you reading this! Research has shown over the past several decades that the best predictor of success for therapy is not down to the therapist's training or even experience. It's about the quality of the therapeutic relationship.
For me, the relationship between you and I is the most important part of therapy. Once we base this on safety, openness and realness you will experience shifts in your way of being. And you will likely start to feel more curious about and accepting of yourself, which tends to be a huge relief from the relentless critics in our heads.
I'm easy to open up to, genuine, warm, see therapy as a very collaborative process and find space for humour in our sessions. I’m here to be with and alongside you for as long as it feels helpful and growthful.
Where do I work?
I work from calm, private rooms very close to Liverpool Street, Moorgate and Bank stations.
I offer face to face and phone sessions.
I also have extensive experience with online therapy (video, instant messaging, email) to give you the flexibility and convenience you need.
What type of therapy do I practice?
I'm a fully qualified, accredited and insured Counselling Psychotherapist with a Master's Degree in Integrative therapy. This means I make use of a range of therapy modalities to allow me to tailor my approach to suit you as effectively as possible. These include CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, which focuses on how a person’s thoughts and perceptions affect the way they feel and behave), psychodynamic (sees human functioning as based upon the interaction of drives and forces within the person, particularly unconscious ones) and humanistic therapy (focuses on self-development and growth. Recognises a person's strengths, creativity and choice in the here and now) as well as many branches within those three main approaches.
I’ve also trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy as well as sound therapy. I’m a Clinical Hypnotherapist as well as an NLP (neuro-linguistic programming), Mindfulness Meditation and Emotional Freedom Techniques Practitioner. I use elements of psychodrama, attachment-based therapy, Internal Family Systems, Gestalt, Existential, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, Somatic Experiencing, Acceptance and Commitment therapy as well as Compassion-Focused therapy. I follow Brené Brown's work on shame and vulnerability as well as having devoured everything I can get my hands on about Polyvagal Theory which has added incredible new dimensions to my work with my clients. I’m also a big fan of Gabor Maté and his Compassionate Inquiry.
I have experience in and regularly work with a range of issues, some of which include: anger, generalised anxiety disorder and the many kinds of anxiety, grief, loss, body image, childhood issues, confidence, depression, disability, eating disorders, family issues, gender identity and gender expression issues, IBS, identity, life transitions such as parenthood, separation, divorce and retirement, OCD, phobias, panic disorder / panic attacks, emotional abuse, addiction, pain management, PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder), sexual abuse, relationship issues, seasonal affective disorder (SAD), self esteem, self harm, sexual issues, spirituality, stress, suicidal thoughts and trauma as well as the many other things that life can throw at us.
I am also a supervisor (experienced and currently undertaking a formal qualification), please take a look at my profile.
What should I expect from therapy?
We get curious. We talk. Sometimes we don't. Sometimes we move. We try things differently. We edge gently into vulnerable places. I don't judge. It's a safe, confidential space to bring and be yourself.
The aim of my form of therapy is for you to feel heard, held, understood and respected; to empower you with resources and ways to manage life so that you can live, feel and be as you want. Let's talk about how we can work together.