Neil Loffhagen Person-centred/humanistic counsellor , RG42
We are each unique, so the way we work together will be unique.
My aim is to help you in your journey to discover your potential. I am not here to tell you what to do; that is advice and any change would likely be short-lived. Through self-discovery, a power within can be found which will surprise you and those around you.
A personal example: for years I suffered from low self-esteem. Outwardly everything seemed fine, things were good. Yet, inwardly there was something missing. As part of my training I was seeing a Focusing-oriented counsellor and in one session it just happened! I sensed, knew and felt that I am important. No more important than others, but no less either. The feeling came with such intensity that I have never forgotten it - I still feel it years later. Previously, people would often tell me positive things to build me up, which would boost me for a time. Only when the feeling came from within did any real and lasting change occur. It was through Focusing this change came.
I offer full acceptance of who you are, to enable you to fully accept yourself. Once you accept yourself, change can happen. Carl Rogers wrote:
“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”
Accepting yourself just as you are does not mean you are content to stay as you are. It opens something inside that allows lasting change. You are then able to make the changes you want in your life or gain contentment to be and stay where you are.
As, Brian Thorne, another person-centred therapist, said:
"I have discovered since that love devoid of understanding, although it can bring comfort and solace, can never heal."
My offering is unconditional love and acceptance, combined with understanding to help bring healing and thus change. The overall aim is for you to have no need for a therapist or counsellor. As Brian Thorne also wrote:
"If therapy has been successful, clients will also have learned how to be their own therapist."
It is as though he listened
and such listening as his enfolds us in silence
in which at last we begin to hear
what we are meant to be.
Training and qualifications
Advanced trainee in Diploma in Integrative Psychosexual Therapy
Essentials in Gender And Sexual Diversity Therapy
Certificate in Focusing Skills and Theory for Therapists
Diploma in Person-Centred counselling
BA (Hons) in psychology
The horrible bit - I charge £60 per counselling hour, which is 50 minutes. Same for individuals, couples or groups. We are all unique in what works best for us, so a session can be longer or shorter according to your wishes. This is open for discussion. Costs are then charged pro-rata. Concessions are available for students and others.
Payment can be by cash, cheque, credit or debit card, PayPal or using "mobile to mobile payments".
Because it is important that we both feel comfortable with the counselling relationship, being able to work together, the first 30 minutes of our first session is free. Your choice is then to leave or continue on with the session. This can be either in person, online or via email. If you don't feel comfortable working with me there is no obligation to continue or return. If you later change your mind, you are, of course, welcome to come back.
Couples therapy Person-centred/humanistic Sex Therapy Integrative Mindfulness Issues often worked with:
Couple relationshipsGender identitySexual problemsSexual/physical abuseSexuality issuesTraumaBereavementAnxiety Availability:
Within one week Therapy offered:
In personOn videoBy email Client groups:
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4 Tocker Gardens