Anshu RastogiCouple therapy counsellor
In this sad time of COVID-19, as a counsellor specialising in relationships; how we relate to others and importantly right now how we relate to our own loved ones, anxieties, panic & fears, I am counselling using online video: Zoom, Skype, FaceTime, WhatsApp and telephone therapy.
Questions you may be asking yourselves: Will my relationships always be like this? How can we/I overcome the past & familiar patterns? Why did they have an affair? When will we be intimate again? Are we still in love? Should we separate? Am I a bad person? Why do I feel sad? What’s this anxiety about? Is this depression? When/How can I/we end this fighting? Who am I? What's the point?
My passion is to support and walk alongside my clients experience of uncertainty & change - from couples & individuals who feel it's make or break to families in conflict. As a specialist relationship counsellor, I can help you navigate the challenges and fears you face together or alone. I've been featured on BBC Radio 4 Woman's Hour - please see link: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p06hfxg9
I believe it’s sacred to help people. I support people so they can have better relationships with them-selves and others, as everything we do or are in life, is because of how we “relate” to it, them or ourselves.
Whatever stage you are in, feeling confused, indifferent, stuck or needing clarity, I would like to help. As I used to live and practice as a counsellor in East Dulwich, SE22 in London for years and recently moved to Sheffield, where I grew up & love, I understand many ways of being and living. Whether in Sheffield or London, taking steps to reach for help is courageous. I invite individuals, couples, families of all backgrounds to get in touch.
How I work?
I work with different types of people, including individuals, couples and families and specialise in relationship counselling.
Often couples feel stuck or helpless – this is where I can help untangle or break down the issues in a sensitive and insightful way.
My time with couples is spent helping them navigate their communication blocks – why they are struggling to hear each other or why they have stopped listening altogether. Through my training, I have developed techniques to support relationships going through such obstacles.
However, the complexity of how couples communicate can often be symptomatic of something else, such as having affairs, sexual problems/practices, anger, abuse, controlling behaviour, stress, pressure of life/work balance, bereavements, redundancy, promotion, financial strain, lack of intimacy, loss of desire, starting a family, postnatal depression, chronic anxiety or falling out of love.
Together, we unpack and flesh out what is behind the communication issues to explore new ways of moving forward and being happier. Sometimes, this may involve separation or divorce. I offer counselling that is supportive for both parties during this uncertain and often conflictual period.
With couples and families in distress, I use combinations of narrative therapy and mindfulness techniques to provide “a distance from the problems”, which then allows space to observe and understand how to find new ways to resolve issues, which would otherwise be too difficult.
For individuals who find their relationships are not meeting expectations, are disappointing or unfulfilling, then I can help by working through the anxiety or depression you might be left with. I use psychodynamic and attachment psychology to unpack what might be behind your patterns – looking at family history as well as wider contexts, such as social life, politics, class, gender, sexuality, religion, culture or race.
If you feel your relationship with yourself or another is at breaking point, getting in touch with me could allow you that safe space to reflect and understand if there are other ways to find answers.
About My Approach
In addition to my work with Relate, I have also worked with a charity counselling parents and vulnerable adults on issues such as pregnancy, perinatal care, post-natal depression, eating disorders, anxiety, sexual, emotional and physical abuse, borderline personality disorder, race, gender & sexuality. As a relationship expert, I work hard to ensure my clients experience meets their expectations/hopes. Whilst working as a counsellor for Relate, I’ve gained a solid foundation & network that supports and informs my private practice. I work in an ethical manner, which is why I have a private supervisor (BACP accredited member) and take part in regular continuous professional learning.
My training in mindfulness based stress reduction, plus my own meditation practice gives me another platform of expertise to share with you, depending on the issues and style of counselling that’s required.
Relationship counselling focuses on how couples, families and individuals relate to one another and themselves. My aim is to improve people’s relationships. The relationship we develop together will be the first step to helping you achieve your expectations.
Before counselling, I worked for years in the media, corporate and charity sectors as a journalist and producer. This coupled with my own passions to help people in the most fulfilling and genuine way has led me to counselling - which I love. It warms my heart, that I can help people improve their relationships with themselves and their loved ones.
Issues often worked with
Types of therapy
£45 for the initial consultation
Ongoing counselling, after the initial consultation is £50 for individuals, couples and families.
I can offer reduced rates/packages for those with financial issues - please ask.
NHS STAFF - please get in touch, to discuss moving forward with the free counselling package.
Training and qualifications
I trained with Relate where I gained my PG Diploma in Relationship Counselling, which focuses on an integrative psychological approach. I continued with my training at the Institute of Family Therapy, gaining my PG Certificate in Systemic Practice with Families and Couples. This led me to complete PG level two certificate in Narrative Therapy as well as a comprehensive course in Mindfulness based therapies.
My time working for Relate is busy seeing couples, families and individuals with relationship issues. However, I have worked regularly with a charity as an individuals counsellor on complex issues based around abuse, rape, BPD, eating disorders, depression and sexuality.
In my past I have also been a Samaritan, helping people with suicidal thoughts as well as training with Relate in suicidal risk and advanced certification in domestic violence and child protection & safeguarding.