Articles by Julia Bueno

05Oct

Why Is Everyone Such a Harsh Self-Critic?

Julia Bueno

selfcompassion, selfcriticism

Therapists

Psychotherapist Julia Bueno, author of Everyone's A Critic, explains where self-criticism comes from and why it sits at the root of so many challenges that bring people to therapy.
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13Jul

Everything Happens For a Reason: New Novel Tackling Baby Loss and Grief

Julia Bueno

books

Therapists

Psychotherapist Julia Bueno, who specialises in working with miscarriage and baby loss, reviews new novel Everything Happens For a Reason. In Allen's new novel, the protagonist Rachel seeks to make sense of the stillbirth of her son.
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11Dec

M-Boldened and Other Reads to Educate and Empower

Julia Bueno

body, books, health, women

Therapists

M-Boldened is a collection of essays on the menopause, shining a light on the important and often overlooked aspects of women's health. Psychotherapist Julia Bueno reviews.
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29Oct

We Are Family: What Susan Golombok's Research Tells Us About the Nature of Families

Julia Bueno

books, family, society

Therapists

Susan Golombok's new book We Are Family summarises research carried out over 40 years on people's different experiences of family. It emphasises that how a family functions is of far more importance than how it is formed. Psychotherapist Julia Bueno reviews.
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27Apr

7 Ways to Manage Relationship Conflict in Lockdown

Julia Bueno

coronavirus, couples, love, marriage, relationships, tips

Therapists

Sharing space 24/7 in lockdown while coping with coronavirus-related stress could spell trouble for your relationship. Therapist Julia Bueno offers 7 ways to manage conflict.
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30Mar

How to Prepare For an Online Therapy Session

Julia Bueno

coronavirus, onlinetherapy

Therapists

Now that the UK is in lockdown, clients and therapists are switching to working online. Therapist Julia Bueno explains how to prepare for an online therapy session.
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16Oct

Give Birth Like a Feminist by Milli Hill Review

Julia Bueno

body, books, health, pregnancy, society, women

Therapists

Give Birth Like a Feminist reveals current birth practices in the UK and questions whether women are given enough choice or consideration. Therapist Julia Bueno reviews
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10Oct

How to Talk to Someone After a Miscarriage

Julia Bueno

body, couples, family, miscarriage, pregnancy, relationships, women

Therapists

As many as 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage. Shock and grief often accompany this painful event – so what can we say to friends and loved ones who have recently had a miscarriage?
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31Jul

Women's Hormones and Mental Health: Hormonal by Eleanor Morgan

Julia Bueno

body, books, women

Therapists

Eleanor Morgan's new book Hormonal explores how medicine and society have misunderstood women's health and the connection between hormones and mental health
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02May

Why I Wrote a Book About Miscarriage

Julia Bueno

books, grief, miscarriage, parenthood, trauma, women

Therapists

After losing her twins at 22 weeks, Julia Bueno has written a book about miscarriage, The Brink of Being, to support others
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13Feb

Ask Me About My Uterus: Memoir Highlights How Women's Pain is Ignored

Julia Bueno

books, health, society, women

Therapists

Abby Norman's memoir, Ask Me About My Uterus, details her experience of endometriosis and the challenge women face ensuring their pain is acknowledged
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22Aug

The Only Girl in the World: A Memoir

Julia Bueno

abuse, books

Therapists

Maude Julien's memoir recounts a childhood spent in isolation, raised by abusive parents who believed it was their duty to raise her into the ultimate 'superhuman'
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14Jun

In Search of the Meaning of Motherhood

Julia Bueno

books, infertility, mother, motherhood

Therapists

Jessica Hepburn tried many times to get pregnant using IVF. Now she has written a book about motherhood, reviewed here by therapist Julia Bueno
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23Feb

All That Man Is: Tales of Masculinity at Odds with Itself

Julia Bueno

books, men

Therapists

David Szalay’s latest novel, All That Man Is, is a valuable contribution to understanding the way some men look at the world
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24Apr

How to Keep from Turning into Your Parents

Julia Bueno

childhood, family, mother, narcissism, parenting, therapy

Therapists

Learning to be a parent if you have been raised by a narcissistic mother or father can be challenging says therapist Julia Bueno
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10Apr

When Guilt Turns to Shame

Julia Bueno

guilt, selfcompassion, shame, therapy

Therapists

Using a composite client example, therapist Julia Bueno explores why shame can be a much more damaging feeling than guilt
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03Apr

How Do I Know Who I Really Am?

Julia Bueno

authenticity, identity, self, therapy

Therapists

Therapist Julia Bueno recounts a composite case history of an apparently successful, happy young woman who struggled to know what she really wanted out of life
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22Feb

An Abbreviated Life: Book Review

Julia Bueno

books, childhood, family, mother

Therapists

Therapist Julia Bueno reviews An Abbreviated Life by Ariel Leve, who grew up with a narcissistic mother
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21Feb

Recognising Post-Natal Depression

Julia Bueno

depression, guilt, motherhood, parenting, PND, postnataldepression, pregnancy

Therapists

As many as one in 10 women may suffer from post-natal depression. But, says therapist Julia Bueno, not everyone can spot it in themselves or their loved ones
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25Jan

The Body Keeps the Score

Julia Bueno

anxiety, books, emdr, therapy, trauma

Therapists

Bessel Van Der Kolk's "brilliant synthesis of contemporary thinking about the impact of trauma on the body and mind" The Body Keeps the Score is reviewed by therapist Julia Bueno
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04Dec

Being Single Can Be Painful at Christmas

Julia Bueno

Christmas, loneliness, relationships, single, therapy, women

Therapists

Family Christmas can be painful if you are the only one who is single and without children. Therapist Julia Bueno has advice for coping
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18Nov

Missing Loved Ones at Christmas

Julia Bueno

bereavement, Christmas, family

Therapists

Christmas can be a painful time of year if loved ones are missing. Therapist Julia Bueno posts on coping with bereavement in the party season
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26Oct

WiseWords #1: from Brene Brown to Paul Gilbert

Julia Bueno

books, selfhelp, WiseWords

Therapists

The first in a series in which welldoing.org therapists share the books they suggest to their clients. The first recommended titles are from Julia Bueno
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27Aug

Why Walking and Talking Therapy Works

Julia Bueno

counselling, exercise, nature, therapy, wellbeing

Therapists

Therapist Eileen Wise offers walking and talking therapy from her home in the Suffolk countryside. She explains how getting out in the open air can help with difficult conversations
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08Apr

On Feelings, Closeness and Intimacy

Julia Bueno

couples, love, self, single, therapy

Therapists

Therapist Kamila Kaminska explores the uniqueness of our emotional struggles and how therapy can support you in developing closeness and intimacy in all your relationships
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23Mar

For New Mums and Dads Dealing with Negative Feelings

Julia Bueno

depression, family, father, men, motherhood, parenting, pregnancy, selfcompassion, therapy, women

Therapists

Therapist Kamila Kaminska writes to all new mums and dads who are struggling with perinatal depression and anxiety
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07Sep

Saying Goodbye to Summer

Julia Bueno

counselling, depression, family, sad, self, stress, therapy, wellbeing

Therapists

Many of us mourn the end of summer. Therapist Julia Bueno on how self-compassion and taking things slow can help us through the September blues.
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04Sep

Life Beyond the Empty Nest

Julia Bueno

family, father, home, midlife, mother, society, wellbeing

Therapists

Claire Odeon Hershman urges parents to look at the bright side and embrace finally having an empty nest.
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09Feb

How to Cope with Infertility

Julia Bueno

couple, family, infertility, men, stress, women

Therapists

Struggling with infertility, some women find they need holistic, therapeutic help as well as medical
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03Dec

Show Some Self-Compassion

Julia Bueno

mindfulness, self, selfcare, selfcompassion, wellbeing

Therapists

Why are we so mean to ourselves? Unlock your hidden potential by engaging in some self-compassion.
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19Nov

How to Become a Psychotherapist

Julia Bueno

career, education, self

Therapists

It took a while to get there, and by a rather circuitous route, but I count myself extremely lucky for having one of the best jobs I could imagine. I'm intellectually and emotionally challenged, with ongoing development and learning an essential part of my work. I'm my own boss, which allows me to structure my working week around other commitments. I work both alone and with a team, and I have a strong network of professional support. Every hour of each working day differs, and there is a range of directions in which my professional interests may steer me....
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19Sep

Don't Let Mindfulness Unleash Your Inner Critic

Julia Bueno

emotions, mindfulness, self compassion, theapy, wellbeing

Therapists

Mindfulness practice is a useful psychological tool, but it needs an element of self-compassion too says therapist Julia Bueno
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18Aug

Partners of Miscarriage Feel Ignored

Julia Bueno

bereavement, family, men, miscarriage, women

Therapists

We must also recognise the grief experienced by partners of miscarrying mothers so they have the space and support for their loss to be noted.
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26May

Sometimes Therapy Goes Wrong

Julia Bueno

counselling, therapists, therapy

Therapists

Therapy can sometimes go wrong. Therapists can be unprofessional, unethical and even, it's tough to think, criminal.
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04May

Self Protection: A Therapist's Guide

Julia Bueno

compassion, empathy, therapy, wellbeing

Therapists

Over-empathising can be draining; read therapist Julia Bueno on why we all need to consider our own self protection before being of use to others...
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21Mar

Compassion: Why Being Gentle to Yourself is the Foundation of Happiness

Julia Bueno

compassion, happiness, kindness, self compassion, selfworth

Therapists

It took me a very long time to work out the difference between being kind to myself and actually being kind to myself. I used to think a long hot bath, a yoga class or a new pair of shoes would suffice to ease a low patch or quieten my noisy inner critic. These gestures may have helped a bit, but they remained just that – actions representing a kindness rather than actions that also felt kind to myself when I did them. I could practise yoga for an hour and still feel bad. I might even feel rubbish at yoga and leave a class feeling even worse. Learning to be truly kind,...
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10Feb

Who Does What? Talking Therapies Explained

Julia Bueno

counselling, psychoanalysis, psychology, psychotherapy, therapy

Therapists

Therapist Julia Bueno explains how talking therapy and counselling work for the client
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