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Postnatal Depression: What it is and How to Deal With it

Postnatal Depression: What it is and How to Deal With it

Estimates suggest that between five and ten percent of women suffer from postnatal depression after having a baby. It's normal to have what’s known as the ‘baby blues’ to some degree in the days and weeks after the birth, this generally involves feeling more tearful and vulnerable than usual and doesn’t last very long. When these feelings become persistent and are joined by other symptoms, then postnatal depression may be diagnosed. Unfortunately, due to the misconception that postnatal depression means not bonding with your baby many women don’t realise...
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OCD: What are Obsessions and Compulsions?

OCD: What are Obsessions and Compulsions?

There is a lot of confusion around Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, and a great many inaccurate portrayals of OCD in the media have led to thousands of people thinking they have OCD when they don’t. Many people will describe themselves as ‘a bit OCD’ if they like things done in a certain order or they like to keep their homes clean and tidy. This is not OCD. It is perfectly normal to have preferences for order and routine, and cleanliness works on a sliding scale with some people being very particular and other people being a lot more relaxed about their cleaning...
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Self-Acceptance:  Letting Go of Regret

Self-Acceptance: Letting Go of Regret

January is traditionally a time when we are bombarded with messages prodding us to change. We’re encouraged to be more weight conscious and philanthropic to be less bibulous and self-indulgent. However, as we face into the New Year there are some things that go beyond, say, our alcoholic intake, and remain irritatingly outside of our control. At the beginning of last year a psychiatrist referred a retired dentist, John, to me with the hope that working together we might help to alleviate the elderly man’s distress. When John arrived in my consulting room he...
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How To Spot Sociopath Women

How To Spot Sociopath Women

Sociopath women are present among us, in some of our families and social groups, in some of our workplaces and in the public eye, throughout history and in literature. They may be fewer in number than male sociopaths and viewed with less fear but do we have cause to be concerned about them? How do sociopath women differ from sociopath men? Sociopathy is a disorder of personality. At it's core is a pathological level of narcissism. The self-esteem of the sociopath is poorly regulated because the sociopath acts to protect and sustain an in?ated, but ultimately...
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The Psychology of Impulse Buying

The Psychology of Impulse Buying

Why do we buy things we never use? Why do we keep shopping when we’re not happy with what we buy? Why do we give in to impulse buying? Marketing plays a part. As consumer psychologist Kit Yarrow puts it, marketers make powerful use of psychology. Deep down, Yarrow says, we all want to believe in magic. So we look for it in shopping bags; hoping to spend our way to satisfaction. But if we’re doing that in the hope of meeting a need, did the consumer world really create that need? Or did we already have it? My self-awareness has blossomed since I started...
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What you Need to Know About Counselling for Children

What you Need to Know About Counselling for Children

I am sometimes asked, why can’t just any psychotherapist or counsellor work with children? Why do I need to look for somebody with specialist training? My answer would be, whilst any fully qualified adult psychotherapist or counsellor may choose to work with children and young people, there are particular differences in therapeutic work with children and adults that require different skills and experience. Some differences between adults, children and adolescents are obvious, but the needs and expressions of these age groups are distinctly different. As well...
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From Hedonist to Healthy: Overcoming OCD and Anxiety

From Hedonist to Healthy: Overcoming OCD and Anxiety

Bea Mitchell has obsessive-compulsive disorder and experiences debilitating intrusive thoughts about her partner and their relationship. As she wants people to understand OCD better, she has written here about how it led to her recent decision to get healthy: I don’t care about my health because I’m not far off 30, or because I want to be fit, toned or thin. I care about my health because if I don’t, my OCD runs wild, causing extreme anxiety. Healthy living is something I’ve never really aspired to. The sheer bliss that drinking, eating, smoking - and the rest...
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Silver Circle: A Support Network for the Later Stages of Life

Silver Circle: A Support Network for the Later Stages of Life

Aged 50 and at the height of my former career, I was one day informed that I had become ‘surplus to requirements’ and without warning made redundant. I felt then that I had been stripped of my sense of identity, my sense of purpose and everything I thought I had known about the world. That shocking experience is the base metal from which Silver Circle has been formed. Having re-trained as a counsellor and psychotherapist, my work has since been primarily with adults on a one-to-one basis; in the process I have found it particularly rewarding to work with people who,...
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Why is Saying no so Hard?

Why is Saying no so Hard?

Do you know how to say “no”? It’s such a small word but often one of the most difficult to say. Those of us who feel uncomfortable saying no are actually doing ourselves are disservice and often struggle with healthy boundaries. So what are boundaries? Boundaries are a way in which we keep ourselves mentally healthy and safe. We can see and feel physical boundaries. Have you ever had the experience of speaking to someone and feeling he or she was just too close? You move away and he or she still moves in on your space. We can see and feel these boundaries but...
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9 Tips to Help with Seasonal Affective Disorder

9 Tips to Help with Seasonal Affective Disorder

Seasonal Affective Disorder is a cyclical depressive period which usually occurs in autumn and winter. Sufferers are plagued with symptoms such as fatigue, increased appetite, loss of interest in daily activities, loss of libido, inability to focus and feelings of anxiety and irritability. People may automatically turn to alcohol and drugs to self-medicate, which in turn can make symptoms worse. SAD is thought to be caused by the lack of sunlight in the winter months. The lack of sunlight is thought to affect the functioning of your hypothalamus, the part of your...
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